Suicide – Time to Take Stock

January 25, 2020 in Let the Energy Flow

Personally, I don’t like the word ‘Suicide’.  I looked up the meaning on Wikipedia. ‘Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one’s own death.’

In my view – nobody wants to die.  They are just at a point where they feel in so much pain, be that physical, mental or emotional and for them, there is no way forward.  No hope.

Suicide has a devastating effect – for those who die, survive attempts, and for family, friends, colleagues.

I am writing this now because January to March see suicide rates increase. 

In America alone, around forty-seven thousand individuals commit suicide per annum. Its equivalent to 4,7000 murders per year since killing oneself is also a murder. Suicide ranks at the 10th biggest cause of death in the United States.(1)

In 2018, there were 6,507 suicides registered in the UK, an age-standardised rate of 11.2 deaths per 100,000 population; the latest rate is significantly higher than that in 2017 and represents the first increase since 2013.(2)

The numbers and rates of suicide and undetermined deaths vary between age groups, with rates among males highest for those aged 45-49 years (except 90+ years) and among females, highest for those aged 50-54 years. More and more young people are taking their life, it is a tragedy of the worse kind.

What is going On?

It is that dreaded S word!  The one most choose to ignore or brush under the carpet until it is too late. Stress is a silent killer. 

Stress is mankind’s worst enemy. We see, read and hear regular news about how individuals who indulged in social crimes and for some cases took their own life.   When the story unfolds and often not until a court case, it would seem mental health was the cause. They were victims of stress. The tragedy is with loss of life is that it affects family, friends, work colleagues and society as a whole.  Although everyone faces the ups and downs of life, when someone is under continuous stress and anxiety, the body starts absorbing more and more stress that leads to physical, mental, and emotional problems that can include suicidal tendencies.

Fight or Flight?

 During an emergency situation, our body responds to stress by activation of the fight/flight response; adrenaline rushes, heart rate increases, the pupil dilates, respiration increases, and the body adapts itself for survival.  However, under chronic stress, this response gets continuously fired.  So, what happens is that slowly over time physical, mental and emotional deterioration starts to show. Initially classic symptoms of stress include mood swings, headache, IBS, back pain, anxiety and depression.  As the holding of tension gets worse chronic pain, fibromyalgia, various illnesses or disease show up suddenly without any obvious cause.  Mental health issues become overriding. At worse, stroke, heart attack cancer and regrettably when hitting rock bottom, the only way out is suicide. 

What is Chronic Stress?

It refers to the small doses of stressful events or memories that one faces over a period of time. This stress is more dangerous than acute stress that is the defensive mechanism of the body against emergency situations aka fight or flight responses.

Chronic Stress Must Not Be Ignored

If you look at yourself or the people around you, one thing you can bet is almost common for us all is the experience of stress. The fast-paced life, social, financial, marital and other pressures are collectively manipulating the mind to remain under constant stress and tension. Depression, anxiety, psychiatric and mental disorders have become an epidemic. The worst outcome is taking one’s life. But why? Because people find it an easy escape from all their worries. Scientists have confirmed that chronic stress gets stored in the form of a memory that constantly engages the fight or flight system that is present in the abdominal region.

The Psoas muscle is the main reserve for all the stress that body absorbs since this muscle is actively involved in all stressful conditions.

Most people I ask do not even know where their Psoas muscle is. That included medical practitioners!  Why would they? It is hidden in the back of the body.  Under the diaphragm, behind all your organs and into the top of the legs.  Apart from holding your upper body to your lower body, what is key is that it is your fight/flight center. It is where you hold your fears and emotions and because it is attached to the diaphragm it impacts breathing.

It’s important to know that we may not realize that we are constantly taking in small doses of stress each day whether from aspects of financial, personal or social life. But if we ignore what is going on by the time, we realize the impact it is having on our physical, mental or emotional wellbeing, it becomes too late and we find ourselves at the edge – wanting to end it all. Once life is ended it can never be undone however, the causes that lead to such mental distress that suicide seems to be the only answer can be undone if treated earlier.

Stress Can Lead To Suicide?

Stress is the most common cause of suicide – that act of someone taking their own life. The build-up of not coping can come from workplace stress, study, exam pressure, job dissatisfaction, relationships, losing a loved one.  Young and old alike are vulnerable.  Witnessing or coping with physical, mental or emotional abuse which can stem from early years builds up in the body, again in the Psoas muscle. 

Terminal illness such as cancer or HIV can be enough to drive one to the edge. Social isolation, bullying or harassment, loss of a loved one, joblessness are all factors that impact the quality of life and the stress leads to mental health problems.

Treatment is limited and most often not effective.  Self-medication such as drinking, drugs or eating the wrong foods only add to the growing psychological problem that just continues to get worse. Self-medication leads to addiction, so health deteriorates further. Certainly, whether drugs or alcohol become a get by strategy there is no rational thinking when feeling so low.

People Who are at High Risk of Suicide

According to a survey, the highest suicidal rates belong to India, America, Alaska and some parts of Africa.

While most of the Suicide attempts are men and women age 45 and above, in the recent past, there is an alarming increase in the number of suicides committed by youngsters as well. The suicide rate is higher among young men compared to young women. Especially, University students are found more trapped under stress. Performance and exam pressure, dealing with finances and student loans, concomitant work and study stress, being bullied, ragged and other sorts of stressors like drugs can chronically induce the venom of stress in young minds leading them to commit or attempt suicide.

One in five college students have experienced suicidal thoughts due to stress at some point in their lives.” (2)(3)

Academic stress and suicidal ideation among university students are rapidly increasing.

“Recently, at Bristol University, a student named Natasha committed suicide due to the stress of being unable to speak in front of people. Her body was found dead the day before she was going to give a verbal presentation in front of staff and students. She tried to seek help from the staff previously, but she wasn’t helped the way such cases should be handled.” (4)

Suicides in the Service Sector

Heroes that save the lives; police officers, firefighters, prison officers, nurses, and soldiers are more prone to commit suicide due to their stressful and violent work scenarios. Stress causes slow but constant psychiatric damage leading to mental health problems and suicidal thoughts among service sector employees. Police officers have to face the extraordinary stress of shootings, encounters, robberies and certain emergencies that an ordinary person cannot withstand. If not treated effectively, chronic stress forces them to end their lives.

Medical field professionals like surgeons have to perform critical operations that can be a life or death situation for the patient. Subconsciously, chronic stress due to stressful OT environment leads them to substance use and even suicidal thoughts. Likewise, nurses interact more closely with the patient and its attendants. In case of a serious illness or death of a patient, nurses and doctors become equally involved in grief (stress) like the attendants. Ironically, medical staff have to face these situations on a daily basis.

Life Trauma

We have no control over the situation’s life throws at us all.  Many children and adults get caught up in traumatic experiences that can scar them for life.  From footballers to celebrities, we are all human and if unlucky enough to become a victim of atrocities imposed from others at whatever stage in life the trauma gets trapped in the body.  If we keep holding on it will impact physical, mental and emotional health. 


Suicide is not an Option It’s necessary to destress the mind and body in order to keep the balance. Stress is temporary if well treated but once a person commits suicide, it’s permanent. That’s why removing chronic stress is the key for the prevention of suicides. Being a student, worker, medical staff, firefighter or police officer, one should be more inclined towards effective stress management that will not only help to prevent suicide but will also pave the way to smoothly work and grow in their respective careers.

What is currently on offer:

Option 1 – Talking – be that to a friend, family member or professional.

Whilst it helps to talk, it does not get it out of the body.  Often talking just feels like churning the same story over and over.  It can often make one feel worse. One cannot talk about childhood experiences that have for many years been blocked and not remembered.

There are not enough professional counselors of therapist to go round and often the cost is prohibitive if having to self-refer.

Option 2 – Medication

Conventional stress medications come with a bunch of harmful side effects and their results are temporary.

It is all sticky plaster and does not address the root cause. Temporary respite but harmful in the long term.

Option 3 – Self Medication

Attempting to block the feelings and emotions that bring the physical mental and emotional pain by resorting to drugs, alcohol, gambling, eating, excessive exercise or other OCD behaviors. 

Whilst they bring temporary relief, the need to keep doing or taking leads to addictions.  So no, not a helpful solution all.

Option 4 – Heal Yourself and Build Resilience

Get to the root cause of what is blocked in your body.  Release from the Psoas muscle.  The Total Release Experience® is simple to learn, empowering 5 Step programme that becomes a tool for life and a life tool.  It is a lifesaver.  We have worked with those on the brink, who attempted, but fortunately failed to take their own life at a time when they felt so low.  By allowing their body to release the tension they healed themselves and got back to a normal happy state to live life to the full once more.

With NHS in meltdown struggling to cope with the growing problems of mental health, addictions and obesity it is time to look to what the body can do and take back control of your own well-being.  With Drs, Therapists, Fire & Rescue, Police and Inmates connecting and healing and recommending, there has been no simpler cost-effective way to live a healthier happier life. 

If you think you have tried everything – then there is one thing left!

The Total Release Experience® is a cost-effective yet practical programme that empowers all who learn. Destress now by releasing from the Psoas and bringing balance back to your physical, mental and emotional well-being.  Don’t wait until it is too late.  Read the stories of those who took back control for themselves.

Don’t’ leave it too late – after all, what’s to lose!


  1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_in_the_United_States
  2. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5781286/
  3. https://www.webmd.com/depression/news/20180910/1-in-5-college-students-stressed-consider-suicide#2
  4. https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-bristol-48254007

The Effect of Stress and Anxiety on Mental, Physical and Emotional Health

December 31, 2019 in Let the Energy Flow

It should come as no surprise that one of the most talked-about topics of this last decade has been and continues to be the effect of stress and anxiety on our well-being.

Stress is a part of life and we can’t completely avoid the effects as we face stress and anxiety in our lives. The way, stress affects our mental, physical and emotional health is directly linked to our ability to manage our energy flow. It’s true that each cell of our body responds to stress and anxiety or trauma. Certainly, stress affects all the organ systems of our body sooner or later.

We often link our problems, daily fatigue, anger, irritability, migraine, headaches, sleeplessness, and restlessness to underlying conditions or illnesses. Unfortunately chronic stress and anxiety become the culprit behind our ill mental, physical and emotional health.

“According to the American Institute of Stress, the effects of chronic stress cost US companies over 300 billion dollars per annum.”

It does not matter how compliant people are with their physician’s advice and guidance on stress management. Regardless of this fact, many eventually develop diabetes, hypertension, obesity, and myocardial infarction as a result. Why? We can ignore the signs, and this is often the case. It is unfortunate, that we fail to understand is that since birth our bodies have been storing the tension.

What is Stress Memory?

The ‘Psoas’ muscle is in the lower lumbar part of the body. Basically the Psoas muscle is basically responsible for holding our upper body to our lower body and moving our legs towards the abdomen of the body similar to walking gestures. The Psoas also stores stress memory because this muscle is also involved majorly in a “fight or flight” response. If the chronically stored stress during a “fight or flight response” or an emergency situation is not released, various health issues may arise particularly IBS, gastric ulcers, mood changes, suicidal thoughts, social isolation and much more. Masking the stress using pain killers, muscle relaxants, opioids, tranquilizers will not treat the real problem.  

Most of the people, as they feel the effect of stress and anxiety taking hold, and find a shortcut way using alcohol and drugs. The constant use of drugs or alcohol provides an instant but short-lived alleviation. After some time period, they become tolerant of previous doses as it all becomes ineffective. The problem is then exacerbated as it becomes on of addiction. This not only urges them to consume more drugs but also puts financial strain

Helping yourself tro let go of the effect of stress and anxiety.
A way to help the effects of stress and anxiety

The best way is to release the stress and let the body relax and get back to normal energies. We do not realise too just how much we constantly take in small doses of stress each day whether in the form of financial, personal or social life. This problem even becomes worse for people performing stressful jobs involving dealing with the trauma of other people like fire firefighters, security personnel, paramedics, surgeons, physicians, animal rescuers, and welfare volunteers, etc. Furthermore, problems can also arise regarding career and health because work pressure puts continuous emotional and physical stress on them,

Stress and Anxiety affect Emotional Behaviour

Stress is a worldwide epidemic affecting millions of lives globally. Depression, anxiety, psychiatric and mental disorders are becoming more and more common. Chronic stress affects behavioral and emotional health symptoms include irritability, hostility, frustration, anger, aggressive feelings, and behavior. Stress can also be the cause of decreased interest in appearance, punctuality, or obsessive behavior (engaging in compulsive behavior rituals such as counting, checking, washing, etc.). Likewise in the workplace the impact might be reduced work efficiency or productivity, lying or making excuses to cover up poor work. Furthermore, excessive defensiveness or suspiciousness, problems in communication, social withdrawal and isolation, impulsivity (expressed as impulse buying, gambling, rape, etc) can occur.

The Impact on Our Young Generation

We daily get news of murders, robbery, chaos, violence, and suicides. Unfortunately, our young generation is also falling into the cracks as pressure grows on them from stress, anxiety.

In a recent event in Manchester, a boy was stabbed with multiple wounds is admitted to the hospital.  The UK has seen far too many of these incidents occurring. The impact on families and communities is devastating. 

It is similar to the shootings that have been going on in Florida, continue to cause grief and misery among the victim’s families and communities. There is countless news coming each day about crimes, social violence, anger, and aggressive behaviors. This is all related to chronic stress at some point. The hate experienced by others, we also store in our body, until such times we notice and perhaps too late, that our body pays the price. That’s why addressing stress, anxiety and tension is necessary for harmonizing emotional behaviors for the promotion of a healthy society.

Small Things Cause Anxiety and Stress

The effect of stress and anxiety can come from bad feelings, bullying, financial stress, joblessness, death of a loved one, breakups, poor self-image, childhood abuse, divorces, accidents, mental or physical trauma, violent personal or job situations and being broke may not seem detrimental to health. Certainly by the very nature of our constitution, in the UK, we would rather hold on to our feelings than admit there was something not right. The classic response to anyone who cares to ask us ‘How are you?’ we say – I’m OK’ no matter what we feel inside, we block or ignore. The long term consequences are that stress can, does and will negatively impact our health.

Stress – Fight or Flight?

Stress causing agent is called stressor. This stressor stimulates the hypothalamus present in the central nervous system of the brain. Hypothalamus in response to a stressor stimulates adrenal glands to release “cortisol” and “adrenaline” causing stress. This fight or flight response affects the body by increased pulse, rapid heart rate, dry mouth, decreased digestion, diarrhea, panic, decreased growth processes, dysfunctioning reproductive system, decreased immune functions, rapid breathing rate, and increased blood flow to the limbs preparing the body for a survival mode. This fight or flight system is beneficial under short term stress. (1)

If the body is under the continuous effect of a stressor then symptoms can become a chronic or long term problem adversely affecting the body’s normal functions.

Stress and Diabetes

Stress can be a major contributing factor in not only aggravating blood glucose levels but also in causing type-2 diabetes. Stress is a potential contributor to chronic hyperglycemia in diabetes. Stress has long been shown to have major effects on metabolic activity. Energy mobilization is a primary result of the fight or flight response. Stress stimulates the release of various hormones, which can result in elevated blood glucose levels. (2) Chronic stress in diabetes can alter the efficacy of insulin or diabetes medications in effective control of blood sugar.

Continous stressor stimulates CNS and results in high levels of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline which alter the glucose metabolism. Eventually, blood glucose levels become out of control even with the use of medications.

Overeating can also be compelled by stress. Therefore consuming more sugars just increases blood glucose even further. Since diabetes is a manageable disease, releasing stress is the most likely effective key.

Stress can affect the Digestive System

According to research, chronic stress can upset the normal digestive system. Stress-induced heartburn, gastric acid reflux, and impaired gastric secretions contribute to worsening digestive problems like constipation, diarrhea, Inflammatory bowel disease (IBS) and even ulcers. (3)

“Chronic occupational stress in employees with stressful jobs, the combination of personality patterns (anxiety/depression), stress and negative emotions contribute to gastrointestinal tract (GIT) alterations. In particular, jobs that produce privation, fatigue, chronic mental anxiety and a long past history of tension, frustration, resentment, psychological disturbance or emotional conflict have been shown to produce gastric ulcers. Irritable bowel syndrome and functional dyspepsia also have significant co-morbidity with mood alterations.” (4)

Gastric ulcers caused by H. pylori bacteria become worse under chronic stress. In the worst conditions, prolonged ulceration can result in gastric bleeding and hemorrhage. That’s why releasing stress becomes even more vital in digestive problems.

Stress may Increase Injuries

Stress can also alter the food movements through the gastrointestinal tract causing diarrhea or constipation, nausea, vomiting, or stomach pain.

Chronic stress can increase the tension in muscles and prolonged stress on muscles under chronic stress lead to the inability of muscles to relax back. In this case, chronic muscle pain, especially shoulder muscle pain becomes a problem. You get more tired and fatigued following daily exercises or work routines. Stress can even cause spinal pain, headaches, and stiffness of muscles. People then mask the pain using traditional pain killers but the cause is still present, which is stress. In the case of diabetes, neuropathic pain becomes even worse under stress.

Chances of chronic muscle injury and bone injury are high if a person is under constant stress leading to arthritis, osteoporosis, uric acid retention in joints, shoulder joint. Releasing stress using anti-depressants and tranquilizers may not be a real deal because of their harmful side effects and inability to treat the cause of the stress.

“According to research, Stress-related psychiatric disorders, including depression and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), are highly prevalent disabling illnesses with limited treatment options and poorly understood pathophysiology. Chronic pain is a widespread pathology afflicting 20%–30% of adults.” (5)

Regardless of the availability of a range of treatment options, chronic pain continues to seriously affect the quality of life for patients. Almost half of the pain suffering individuals do not achieve adequate pain management.
The effect of stress and anxiety have a devastating impact on physical health

Stress Decreases Immunity

Although acute stress is beneficial in the stimulation of the immune system and prevention of common cold, flu, and infections. However, chronic stress results in constant engagement of the immune system there is the chronic release of WBC’s, interleukins and immunoglobulins. Over time, the immune system weakens rendering the body unable to fight even common infections.

Stress and Children

Chronic stress increases recovery time after any illness or injury because the body’s natural healing process becomes altered under stress.

In children, particularly childhood abuse, strict parenting, boarding school, lack of communication or any negative memory may lead to ELS or early life stress in children leading to various physical health problems like cardiac diseases, respiratory diseases, and mental disorders at a young age. (6)

Moreover, chronic stress in any form like the pressure of getting grades, social life, house issues, poverty, strict parenting, abusive behavior, bullying and other sorts of negative vibes encourage the child to adapt escape from daily life routine. This results in a child to become aggressive, abusive, misbehaving and rebellious.

The effect of stress and anxiety on health on children according to research, continuous tension and mental anxiety also results in poor physical and mental growth in children. Consequently, the child’s academic performance also declines hence rendering more pressure on them. In some cases, suicidal thoughts also find their way in young minds finding an escape. The medical treatment does not qualify for rationale treatment of stress in children because their side effects can be dangerous and root cause will still be there.

Releasing stress via specialized treatment procedure plays a vital role in balancing the body’s natural energies. But for many children depending on their experiences, Freeze is the natural response, They block the experience in order to survive.  The consequences of which manifest much later in life.

Respiratory and Heart Problems

Under chronic stress, lungs are constantly hyperactive in order to meet the oxygen needs of each and every cell of the body-facing stress. This leads to chronic damage to tiny alveolar tubes carrying fresh oxygen to the blood. In this case, the risk of developing COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) becomes high. It silently leads to shortness of breath, emphysema, and bronchitis causing inflammation of bronchi. Chronic damage to the lungs is often irreversible. Things become horrible for an asthma patient under chronic stress because stress induces the release of “pro-inflammatory” substances that aggravate the symptoms of asthma and in worst conditions, complete breathlessness can lead to blackouts, damage to brain and heart muscles as well.

Moreover, chronic stress can mimic hypertension because of constant involvement of fight or flight response causes constriction or narrowing of blood vessels in order to maintain the blood flow to muscles. If stress is not managed, it can result in increased chances of heart attacks, strokes, and hemorrhage. People with a history of cardiac problems are more obligatory to release chronic stress.

Mental Disorders and Stress

Everyone faces stress and depression in his or her life. But under some circumstances, this stress can be deleterious to mental health.

PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder is the state of mind after an acutely stressful event that affects the “amygdala’ and “hippocampus” in the brain. In this condition, the person feels fear, anxiety, flashbacks of the same event, nightmares, suicidal thoughts, and insomnia. Although PTSD is caused by acute stress, chronic stress increases the risk of developing the disease.

Alzheimer’s disease involves the devastating loss of cognitive and motor function which is stressful in itself but can also disrupt neural circuits that mediate stress responses. Disrupting these circuits produces aberrant emotional and aggressive behavior that causes long-term care to be especially difficult. In addition, added stress drives the progression of the disease and can exacerbate symptoms. (8)

Sexual Problems from Chronic Stress

Stress is the biggest enemy of sexual life among both males and females. Chronic stress is directly linked with low libido and testosterone levels, fear of performance, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation in men.

There is an inverse relationship between anxiety and sexual functionality. Females can also face less than normal sexual desire, vaginal dryness and itching, lack of orgasm and in some cases, chronic pain during intercourse. (9) (10)

These sexual problems are linked to chronic stress and may cause further stress and anxiety leading to poor relationships and mental breakdowns.

What’s The Solution?

No one knows where their life journey is going to take them. Many people live a relatively stress-free life, but no one escapes completely.  That is why there are so many options to manage the stress symptoms that one might be advised to take on.  Stress and the health issues that many do not realise have come from holding stress in the body has been a topic of much discussion for years.

Despite the choices we make the more stress and trauma experienced it is fair to say that no one can get it out of the body.  But each and every one of us has the power to do that ourselves. 

Our Body has The Answer!

In all the years I have been working with clients impacted by their The effect of stress and anxiety from trauma, the problems in society continue to get worse.  The increased use of social media has contributed to that one.  Despite all the offerings and alternatives that have become available from meditation to massage, from walking to talking nothing is changing.  Some treatments and therapies come for free but many more can cost a lot of money.  The cost can be prohibitive.  It always sticks in my mind that 6 women I worked with had spent between them £170k on trying to heal.  They sat before me with a pleading of hope.

In all the years I have been working with clients impacted by their The effect of stress and anxiety from trauma, the problems in society continue to get worse.  The increased use of social media has contributed to that one.  Despite all the offerings and alternatives that have become available from meditation to massage, from walking to talking nothing is changing.  Some treatments and therapies come for free but many more can cost a lot of money.  The cost can be prohibitive.  It always sticks in my mind that 6 women I worked with had spent between them £170k on trying to heal.  They sat before me with a pleading of hope.

All Comes back to The Psoas!

It all comes back to the Psoas, the fight-flight muscle deep in our body.  The one that holds our fears and emotions.  Attached to our Diaphragm so therefore impacts breathing as the body gets tighter from holding on.

When we learn to reconnect with what nature gave us all to survive – just like animals, then the problems gradually disappear and physical, mental and emotional health restored as our body recalibrates, like a reset button has been switched on.

I have spent 8 years solely working on evolving a practice Trauma Prevention Exercise I learned in South Africa that triggers the Psoas to release.  My discoveries came and continue to come from working in the long term following and supporting individuals who have suffered years with CPTSD and the effect of stress and anxiety that has dominated their life. I have witnessed profound healing where nothing else has come close.

At TRE UK® we deliver the Total Release Experience® an empowering 5 Step programme that becomes a life tool and a tool for life. Supported by professionals – see what they have to say!

We offer hope where there has been none. Overcome the skeptics and seen lives transform.  Not because we have the magic but share with everyone we work with – that they do.

We All Have A Choice

Healing doesn’t happen by itself and when life pulls us down, we have two choices – go with it and get sucked under or make that decision to change and take back control of our own well-being.  Saying no to drugs and medications, addictive behavior, and wasting time and opportunity.  A totally natural response to healing just like animals can be transformational.

Let Wellbeing be your 2020 Choice

In 2020 we want to give as many as possible that choose wellness over illness the opportunity to learn something about your own body that we may have forgotten but your body hasn’t.  We have Workshops coming up from January to March, you will have a great experience as you gain knowledge and insight just like others

Start the new decade by making 2020 your year. Don’t let the effect of stress and anxiety be all you have to deal with. Start with taking control of your own wellbeing.  Heal from the Past and Build Resilience. 

Map showing where you can learn  to heal from the effect of stress and anxiety in the TRE UK Workshops from Jan-March
Discover a TRE UK Workshop near You.

We support you all the way, for we know that so much suffering though it may be part of life’s journey, we certainly do not have to carry around the negativity that comes from it.


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The Dangers of Stress and Addictions!

December 28, 2019 in Let the Energy Flow

Not the answer at Christmas.

Working with many who have suffered stress and how it has led to addictions has prompted me to share my thoughts on this.

Stress is a part of life that never seems to go away.  Christmas is no exception. If we let it fester and turn to substances for our comfort, there is the danger of creating or worsening addictions we might already be trying to curb.

Although with all good intentions it is meant to be a happy and exciting time.  Especially for families when children are around, just seeing the joy on their faces as their excitement grows.  The desire of parents and grandparents to see them have as much as they can pile under the tree.  Then there are the gifts bought for all the loved ones and friends.  Worse is the panic buying, the last-minute food shop, and seeing all the reductions I see it so often, trolleys piled high and for what? One day.  The expectations of Christmas are more than we might imagine.

One thing many lose sight of is not just rationality but the money.  With credit so easy and poor money management skills financial stress is added to the mix.   There is a danger in the aftermath of heightened stress and anxiety.  Christmas brings all sorts of additional stressors and often we may not see them coming. From high expectations to financial overspend, to receiving and giving unwanted gifts.  It can be a time of fall outs as pressure mounts.  When feeling stressed then it is easy to turn to something for relief. Most commonly alcohol, smoking or drugs.  Alcohol is the most common. Binge drinking is easy especially at Christmas, and the difficulty if already a drinker is a challenge for all the family. Stress leads to addiction.

According to Alcohol Concern, there are an estimated 595,131 dependent drinkers in England.  Alcohol misuse is the biggest risk factor for death, ill-health and disability among 15-49 year-olds in the UK, and the fifth-biggest risk factor across all ages. Alcohol abuse is estimated to cost the NHS around £3.5bn annually.  Alcohol consumption in the UK increases in December by 41 per cent.

Julie Breslin, head of programme at Drink Wise Age Well (part of UK drug and alcohol charity Addaction) says: “Christmas can be an enjoyable time for many, but for those who have experienced problems with their drinking and are trying to stay alcohol-free it can be a minefield.

The reason there is a need for alcohol is related to dopamine. Alcohol causes the brain’s reward system to release the motivational chemical dopamine. But over time, chronic drinking actually depletes the amount of dopamine in your brain, causing you to crave more alcohol and laying the groundwork for alcohol addiction.

There is no doubt the cost of alcohol and the risk of addiction or the struggle if already addicted that comes at Christmas is a challenge for all, in families and friend circles.  Little comfort at this time of the year.

The general belief is that alcohol and drugs help people who are suffering from extreme anxiety. While it is true that certain drugs and alcohol provides some relief, with time the effects fade away.  This is why people end up increasing their consumption, which then transforms into an addiction. Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and even caffeine may seem like stress-relievers and help control tension temporarily, but in the end, they just add to the issues instead of solving them.

Stress leads to addiction -drugs or alcohol and can have a negative impact on your life. These are not the solution to removing tension from your life but are instead factors that worsen the situation. If things get out of hand, you can end up losing everything that you have; from your family and home to your job, health and friends. If you are addicted to drugs or alcohol, you cannot hope to deal effectively with the things that are introducing anxiety and tension in your life.

Substance abuse will only add to the stress you already feel. Along with your career, substance abuse can also destroy your personal life. The longer the addiction continues, the more things there will be to create tension in your life. This, in turn, leads to an increase in substance abuse as people seek ways to avoid increasing stress; this is a vicious cycle that leads to more problems than one can count.

If you are feeling stressed, anxious or tense, then using drugs, alcohol, caffeine or cigarettes to mask the problems is the last thing you should do.  Self-medication through substance abuse is not the solution to the anxiety and tension in your life, that may be heightened by seasonal pressures.   Don’t allow stress to cause an addiction

If you do find yourself falling into the trap, then don’t let it get out of hand.  If you do like all your life stress it will become trapped in your body.  Building physical, mental and emotional tensions that disrupt wellbeing on every level.  Remember Stress is a silent killer.  The tensions are stored in your Psoas muscle, your fight/flight centre.  This profound muscle is where your emotions and fears are held.  The more we hold the worse we feel.

The Psoas Muscle. The Fight/Flight centre where fear and emotions are stored. When stressed we comfort with substance and create addictions.  instead of releasing as nature intended!
The Psoas Muscle

But you know just like animals we release the tension and set ourselves free of the past.  The simple, practical and empowering 5 Step programme the Total Release Experience can teach you to do just that.  When the cause is removed the need for addictive substance is gone with it. Stress and addictions are no longer a threat.

Don’t carry forward into 2020 the problems of the past, the resentments, sadness, bitterness and asters – find a new lease of life and physical, mental and emotional wellbeing on every level, just as many others have.  Learn something that your body knows – but you have forgotten!

‘After feeling so sceptical this would work on me, I now feel so hopeful, relieved and inspired to be on this journey of healing’   Evie A

‘I am so glad I have attended this Course.  I was recommended by a surgeon, so I knew it would be safe and effective.  I am amazed that something so simple could be so powerful, thank you so much!’ Natasha.

The Total Release Experience®: Helping Teens Recover from Anxiety

June 2, 2019 in Let the Energy Flow
Don’t let you road ahead be long and hard.

Most all of us experience anxiety and stress brought on by everyday life. From the pressure to receive high marks in school to feelings of insufficiency, there are seemingly endless amounts of situations where anxiety may lurk just behind the corner- especially for teens.

In fact, in Kent alone there are 14,000 teenagers suffering from some form of anxiety or depression. As one can imagine, this can sometimes mean difficulty adhering to the needs of every child. All too often, someone falls through the cracks- receiving inadequate help or little help at all.

The More “Traditional” Approach Isn’t Always Best

When seeking the resources needed to combat their anxiety or depression, many teens will be prescribed medications that they’re told will alleviate their woes.  Commonly, these medications aren’t fully warranted and prove to be unhelpful overall.  Worse still, some of these medications may even worsen a teen’s anxieties and feelings of depression.  Sometimes these prescriptions can even lead to addictions that are hard to break.

We believe that with the Total Release Experience®, teens can feel the weight of the world start to rise from their shoulders. By engaging in the Total Release Experience®  and implementing its useful techniques into your day to day life, you can identify and release tensions before they build to a much larger problem.

The TRE Helps Young People Take Their Lives Back

Anxiety and depression needn’t deter young people from the bright futures that lie ahead of them. It isn’t easy being a teen and when anxiety, depression, and stress grab hold of you, it can feel like the grasp will never loosen.

The TRE will allow teens to take their lives back into their own hands. While we’ll give you the tools to fight back against the worries ailing you, the Total Release Experience® is a self-help practice.  So how does the TRE work and how can you, as a teen, benefit?

The Total Release Experience® is a “no-talking” technique which is a welcome change to many teens.  This no-talking technique means that they will be free from the expectations to recall uncomfortable events or to relive the situations they’ve put so much effort into avoiding. Instead, the TRE teaches teens a very simple 5 Step programme.  A physical practice that becomes a life tool and a tool for life.

The programme is adapted to the unique, specific physical abilities of each young person. Inducing a natural response to release the tensions that have been stored since birth.  Upon gaining control over this response, we are effectively combating one of the largest contributors to anxiety.  The participant can then release this tension at a gradual, effective pace and, in turn, alleviate symptoms of stress and tension within the body.  It becomes a life tool and a tool for life.

How the Total Release Experience Can Benefit Teens

The Total Release Experience® for teens has already been introduced to young people within the UK with overwhelmingly positive results.  Whether experiencing the stress of studies and exams or difficulty with interpersonal relationships, coping with Boarding or bullying those who have already learned the Total Release Experience® have reported positive results.

Once learning and utilizing the techniques introduced in the Total Release Experience® programme, you’ll be on the way to healing both the mind and the body.  Finally, you will be able to regain control over your stresses and anxieties.  Gain the many benefits that help you move forward and build resilience for the future for we never know what life has in store.  Working with TRE UK®, you will learn how to maintain well-being in your day to day life and your future.  They can attend any of our Workshops or why not book a Private Family/School Group Workshop and heal together.

How to Release Daily Pent-Up Anxiety and Stress

January 23, 2019 in blog, Let the Energy Flow

How to Release Anxiety and Stress

Stress is something that you cannot be completely free from. The secret to not letting the daily stress and anxiety get to you is to take measures to release it before it accumulates and becomes too much for you to handle. There are various steps you can take to let the stress out and relax completely without having to worry all the time.

Here are some fail-safe ways for you to try in order to successfully diminish the stress and anxiety in your life:


Those who tell you to make exercising a permanent part of your daily schedule are far from wrong. Doing any kind of exercise everyday helps release the frustration and negativity that accumulates with time. Letting your body experience physical stress is a sure way of releasing your mental stress. Start exercising daily and feel the tension and anxiety slip off, leaving you feeling stress-free and at ease.

Use Essential Oils

Essential oils are known to have healing powers as they help you escape the anxiety and stress you are feeling. Buy scented candles and light them in your home after a hectic day to feel more in control. Some of the most soothing scents include lavender, rose and vetiver.

Write Everything Down

Writing things down is one way of relieving anxiety and feeling better about your life. Write down everything that is troubling you, even if it is as minute as a bad haircut and then jot down possible solutions that you have in mind. Seeing things in writing helps you think better and clears your mind of irrational fears and tension.

Spend Time with Your Loved Ones

Instead of giving in to the urge of staying alone and out of touch from everyone, make efforts to spend extra time with your family and friends. Being with your closest network of people will give you a sense of belonging and will help diminish the anxiety and tension that is a part of your life.

Following these simplistic measures will help you give more meaning to your life and will ensure that you lead a mentally healthier and tension free life.

Look After Yourself

Anxiety is a big problem for many, and when anxious thinking about all the things you could be doing bring challenge.  Why not take a different look at well being?  How does and ‘no talking’ self help practice sound?  Something that is profound, powerful and immediately transforms lives it the Total Release Experience®.  A simple yet powerful practice that can release from the most debilitating symptoms of stress, anxiety, tension and trauma.  TRE UK® deliver the best service, knowledge and support that you would find anywhere.  Because we know how important it is to understand the power of the body that can heal itself.  If you never get to understand it – you never know release.  Look after yourself.

What is Social Anxiety Disorder?

November 11, 2013 in blog, Let the Energy Flow

Research on the many shades of anxiety disorders, a topic of increasing relevance in today’s race-to-the-finish society, shows that social anxiety disorder is the most prevalent of anxiety issue among adults. The number of sufferers rises every year. This might be because it went ignored for so long.

 Classified for years as ‘awkwardness’, ‘pathological shyness’, and most recently ‘social phobia’ (which makes it sound the same as a fear of spiders), social anxiety disorder has been misunderstood for years, leaving sufferers asking helplessly “what is wrong with me?” without knowing that social anxiety is quite common.  You may think you’re alone, but you’re certainly not. Nothing is “wrong”, at least not in the unfathomable, irreparable way you might think.

 What are the signs? Social anxiety is certainly beyond a characteristic shyness or being introverted.  Social anxiety disorder means an overwhelming fear of situations like eating or drinking in front of others, being the center of attention during a social interaction, speaking in public, using public toilets, etc.  As well as intense anxiety over being judged by others or making friends – remember, it could be any number of these things together, or something beyond the scope of this list. It is often accompanied by depression, obsessive compulsive tendencies, or feeling physically sick when called upon to participate in a high-stress social context.  Perhaps the most difficult problem on the individual level is the feeling that the fear is unreasonable, yet you still cannot rise above it.  

  It is these things that bring people to seek help, often not realizing the source of the issue.         Social anxiety disorder often begins in adolescence or even childhood and affects women and men equally, but  doctors believe this anxiety can be eased with a combination of physical, mental, and medical treatment.

 If you’re not comfortable with pills nor a fan of the psychologist’s couch, there are ways.  TRE UK for instance offers the  ‘no talking’ self-help technique that once learnt could work as it has for others, helping you feel more comfortable in social surroundings and more confident and communicative –  you just need to find what works best for you.

PTSD – How Bad Can it Get?

November 1, 2013 in blog, Let the Energy Flow

This is a question I keep asking myself, particularly every time a PTSD sufferer would come to a TRE session.  PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is something that individuals can develop following an incident that occurs out of the blue and totally overwhelms the mind and body.  It is life changing, and not for the better.

With heightened awareness I am starting to see and hear more and more reports on the effects of PTSD, the struggles to deal with it and the tragedy that follows when there seems to be no way out.  The plight of victims that have either been caught up in a situation as a witness or a victim leaving them traumatised and the suffering that follows can be devastating.

In my work with veterans and serving soldiers I am delighted when their symptoms clear using a ‘no talking’ natural body release technique. However the problem is not localised, PTSD is affecting thousands and this was drawn to my attention from a recent article I have read on Medical Negligence with reference to Military Veterans and PTSD.

With the MOD committing £7.4m to ensure mental health support for soldiers why did 21 serving and 29 veterans take their own lives last year?  How come numbers of soldiers suffering PTSD doubled in three years?  It would seem this is going to get a whole lot worse with the plans to double the size of the TA (Territorial Army) from 15k to 30k!  One cannot begin to imagine how bad things can get. 

I invite you to read the article and maybe you will be asking the same question!


Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and the Military

October 17, 2013 in blog, Let the Energy Flow

A while ago I mentioned a friend whose grandfather had never dealt with the trauma he experienced during the Second World War, and how Post Traumatic Stress Disorder cast a shadow over the rest of his life.

This story made me curious about what our servicemen and women experience today, and if enough is being done to combat post-traumatic stress accumulated in Iraq and Afghanistan.  The US government estimates that 20% of its Iraq and Afghanistan veterans  suffer from post-traumatic stress, and Britain’s numbers doubled from 2008 to 2009. Although the government pledged 7.2 million pounds in increased services to members of the military for dealing with trauma, large numbers of these cases still go unreported, misunderstood or ignored. Sleep disturbance could be misconstrued as random nightmares and simple insomnia. Outbursts of rage could be from day-to-day stresses or the just getting back into the groove of civilian life. Flashbacks might be mistaken for routine memories of the past.

 Post traumatic stress from combat is often triggered by events such as being shot at, witnessing death firsthand (often of a friend or comrade), or dealing with the constant stress of never feeling safe.  This does not mean that if you have seen these things you have PTSD, and PTSD itself runs a gamut from very minor cases to those who cannot function at all normally in daily life. It’s important not to self-diagnose, but to speak to a healthcare professional and ask how you can be sure your feelings of anxiety are post traumatic stress.

Even if military personnel do not have PTSD, the anxieties of crossing back into life outside the warzone are to be expected. The immediate change from a high-pressure, consistently dangerous environment to one where family members and friends expect you to be the same as before you went into combat can create intense feelings of nervousness. The best thing, either way, is to seek help if you fear anxiety or PTSD symptoms are interfering with your life. 

Finally if you have tried all the talk therapies and want to learn technique that involves no talking to relieve your symptoms then take a closer look at TRE.

 Click here for an interesting look at art created by soldiers with PTSD: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2331265/The-scars-battle-Soldiers-suffering-PTSD-make-chilling-face-masks-feelings.html

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Anxiety is Not a Distinctly British Problem

September 17, 2013 in blog, Let the Energy Flow

Anxiety is not a distinctly British problem, but we do seem to have a distinctly British attitude towards avoiding it.  Though anxiety levels are higher in Britain than anywhere else in Europe, to talk about our anxieties seems embarrassing, likely to create an uncomfortable social situation and therefore we avoid it at all costs.  Yet one in five Britons not only experiences regular anxiety, but suffers from an actual anxiety or depressive disorder (which often go together), and the perceived stigma shows no sign of waning.

 On a recent visit to my son in Germany, I discovered that the American mandate regarding a constant veneer of cheerfulness leaves similar fallout to the British stiff upper lip.  At least in terms of facing anxiety, even when it’s causing you to falter at work or experience overwhelming stress in your personal life.

An American colleague of my son’s confided that she has suffered from crippling anxiety for years, stemming back to her parents’ divorce.  She said she had seen multiple therapists and tried several kinds of medication, and was extremely skeptical that any treatment could work short of all of life’s little problems setting themselves magically in order.  I offered her a private session in TRE, which she eventually agreed to try with the qualifier “I am the last person who this is going to work on”.

Anxiety disorders are the most prevalent mental health issue in the United States, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, affecting 18% of the adult population.  And before you claim this is simple over-diagnosis of people reacting normally to negative changes we’ve all had to experience in some way in recent years.  Studies by the ADAA and NHS are referring to serious, documented cases.  And besides, anxiety is a normal reaction to the hardships of life, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do anything about it.

After her Tremor Release Experience, my son’s colleague looked relieved, and smiling (for real this time) said, “If anyone wasn’t going to tremor it was me, but…here I am – wow, that was and I feel amazing”.  


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Stress Release – There is Another Way!

September 9, 2013 in blog, Let the Energy Flow

Phew the headlines never stop – we read that ‘Stress adds years to your life’, ‘Stress levels soar in the US in the under 35 year olds’,  ‘Stress levels soar as overtime increases in a battle to beat the credit crunch’, ‘Stress DOES have an impact on cancer’.  It is something we constantly are reminded of as we turn the pages of our newspapers.


Every way we turn, be that on the home front, work, family, study, relationships, finances, housing the list goes on whether young or old stress is prevalent.  I have been taking TRE around the country and the symptoms of stress seem to dominate lives in a battle of survival.


Stress in the workplace we are informed is the top cause of workplace sickness.  Stress costs organisations thousands every year in absenteeism and low-productivity.  Hailed as ‘The Black Death of the 21st Century’ stress if unchecked leads to illness and potential early onset death through, stroke, heart attack or cancer.  Back problems are another symptom as the body starts to hold tensions with no evident form of release.


Many of those I see have tried all sorts to release their symptoms which include, negative or depressive feelings, loneliness or wanting to withdraw, loss of motivation.  Eating habits change and there is often an increase in drinking, smoking and drug taking as one battle to cope with their daily stressors.  Poor memory, concentration and sleep deprivation may also be what you notice.  Stress may well be part of life and inevitable, but you know there is another way to release symptoms of stress if you have tried everything else to no avail.


Learn to release the effect of stress symptoms from your body with the technique of TRE.  You can have a Total Release Experience and like others bring your body back in to balance and cope better with life’s challenges.  It becomes a self-help tool for your life.

Recently a client was amazed that after a traumatic event his back and hip were never the same.  Dr’s, MRI scans and therapists could find nothing so he lived with the problem.  After his first session of TRE he sat up and said all that pain had gone.  Many back issues are a result of held tension.  Take a look at testimonials on treuk.com – there is another way, no talking, just releasing!