Taking Care of Yourself Before Taking Care of Others

August 23, 2022 in blog, Mental Health

Why Take Care of Yourself Before Taking Care of Others?

Take Care of Others By Taking Care of Yourself

Society would have us believe that putting ourselves first is selfish. This is a misconception. Many sources advise us to love ourselves — If you cannot do that, you won’t be any good to take care of others. And the way to start loving yourselves is by taking care of your mental health.

Mental health issues, like physical illnesses, can be dealt with if caught in the early stages. Prevention is even better. That’s why TRE UK®   has outlined some things that, until ready for The Total Release Experience share some things you can do to preserve and improve your mental health.

Paying Attention to Your Emotional State

 One of the major reasons many people struggle with mental health issues is that they are not always aware of their emotional state. Many are so used to feeling pressured, stressed, and upset that they either do not know how to feel differently, or resort to alcohol, drugs, and entertainment to dull the pain.

A better way is to start actively appreciating the positive aspects of your life. The more you focus on these, the less likely you become to fall into places of anger, despair, and depression.  You may never escape such feelings completely.  But by practising appreciation regularly, you’ll eventually find yourself experiencing negative emotions less and for shorter periods.

Going along with that, there are things you can do to facilitate more positivity in the home. First, try to reduce as much physical clutter as possible, since that can adversely impact you. Next, work on reducing mental clutter as well – that is, try to stop being so critical of yourself and others and just embrace each moment for what it is.

Learn to Say No

 Another reason you become stressed out is the idea that you must please others. Being a constant people-pleaser can lead to resentment. Do you feel good about helping someone out or doing a favour? Then do it. Otherwise, Psychology Today suggests just saying no.

Turn Off the News

 Be careful of what you feed your mind. News media outlets make billions by selling fear and outrage — much of it is exaggerated, if not completely false. There are many positive and uplifting stories out there, and despite prophecies of gloom and doom, things today are substantially better than they were even 50 years ago.

Reach Out

 Once you are on an even keel emotionally, consider finding a need in your community and starting a non-profit to address it. Although forming a non-profit is complicated, it offers several advantages. For one thing, it makes it much easier to obtain grants and public funding.

Keep in mind that any corporation, profit or not, requires bylaws covering the organization’s operations, governance, board meetings, elections, and conflicts of interest.

What Else to Do

 Medical science acknowledges the connection between mind and body. Your brain is an organ, just like your heart and stomach, and requires the same nutrients. Avoid refined sugars and carbs, drink in moderation, and eat vegetables. MedicalNewsToday points out that there are many foods and supplements that promote brain health.

Nature is also a great stress reliever. Even a short time spent in the woods can lower blood pressure and promote relaxation. If this is not an option, go to a park or green space for a while.

Pet love

You may also find relief in adopting a companion animal. Dogs especially are non-judgmental and love unconditionally. You may even be able to have a pet designated as a therapy animal.

The key to better mental health is to put yourself first. When you feel yourself falling into a dark place, take healthy steps immediately to feel better. As with anything else, the more you pay attention to your emotional state, the more you will feel consistently better.

Always remind yourself that if you want to take care of others,  take care of yourself first.

At  TRE UK®  we pride ourselves on the continuous change our unique programme The Total Release Experience®  gives our clients as they transform their lives, and we make discoveries about the body’s ability to heal itself. If you have any questions, please let us know!


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Manage Your Stress To Avoid The Queues.

June 18, 2022 in Let the Energy Flow

Patients waiting in NHS queus are put at risk

“NHS nurse shortages a risk to safety”, says the Royal College of Nursing

The NHS is struggling to cope with record demand, with social care services stretched to the limit and patients’ safety is at risk. RCN general secretary Pat Cullen said patients went without the care they needed because of the NHS’s problems. So with one in ten nursing positions left unfilled, where does that leave you, the patient?

         Patients’ in pain and distress’ are forced to postpone treatment as NHS six-month waits hit a new record.

When the NHS started with much excitement in 1948, expectations were naturally high. It was the first time anywhere in the world that free health care was made available, bringing hospitals, doctors, nurses and dentists together under one service. However, as the decades have passed, chronic understaffing, a growing population, poor retention and insufficient funding, not to mention the recent pandemic, have taken a toll on the services it can provide.

Unable to turn to the NHS for the support we have always relied on, whether it be physical, mental or emotional health and well-being, what next for us?

 “For the first time – literally – substantial, rapidly growing numbers of people have choices. For the first time, they will have to manage themselves. And society is totally unprepared for it.’ PETER DRUKER

Peter Druker, one of the most influential and widely-known management thinkers, identified society’s shift to a knowledge society. Knowledge continues to assume greater importance than ever before – and with the NHS and other healthcare providers stretched beyond capacity, what better time than for society to take the lead on their health care.

     “Self-care is the new health care.”

Taking responsibility for our health is an achievable, substantive action. Patients who self-care have been shown to have an increased quality of life, with improved clinical outcomes and fewer emergency visits. In addition, self-care creates better physical, mental and emotional well-being – even small acts of daily self-care can have a considerable impact.

    “Research suggests self-care promotes positive health outcomes including becoming better equipped to manage stress.”

When you have chronic pain, it’s never far from your mind. Not being able to do some of the activities you want to do creates additional stress – feelings of anger, frustration, and in some cases, anxiety and depression. This suffering will only add to the pain, and the circle of misery continues.

  “Stress causes your muscles to tense or spasm, which increases pain. When you feel stressed, levels of the hormone cortisol rise. This can cause inflammation and more pain over time.”

 So, what are your options rather than adding to the already over-stretched budget and waiting times of the NHS to solve your pain? Expensive treatment? Self-medication? Talking to strangers? Or what if there was another option. One that put you firmly in control, with no need to talk, take medication or face a long queue time.?

   “The less stress you feel, the better your brain will be able to interpret pain signals from your body and help heal it. Unfortunately, a stressed brain can’t filter those signals properly and may perceive a higher pain level than is present.”

 Investing in a Total Release Experience (TRE®) course will give you a stress-release tool that you can use for the rest of your life. Cost-effective, with results you will notice straight away, The Total Release Experience® will break the negative spiral and allow you to heal from the inside out.

‘It is rare in medicine to come across something potentially so cost-effective that it is safe and teaches the patient to be self-reliant. It was also refreshing to see a local Pain Consultant recommending it as it ‘fits very well with our bio-psycho-social model of pain management.’ In trials, Caroline has seen many times over in her clients with fibromyalgia, PTSD, and anxiety, for example. I hope this will convince others to offer this as part of their treatment package. The future looks very exciting!’ Dr Alison Graham, GP

What is the Total Release Experience®?

Our programme is an innovative process to assist the body in releasing deep muscular patterns of stress, tension and trauma. You learn to safely activate a natural reflex mechanism to release muscular tension, calming down your nervous system. You will learn how to release through our 5-step online course without talking, medication or touching. With our expert education and guidance, you can start the process of healing on every level and discover physical, mental and emotional balance. You discover FREEDOM.

If you want to gain control over your emotional and physical well-being, get in touch with us now to discover more.

Learn something that your body remembers, but your mind has forgotten.

Stress in the world of Football

July 12, 2021 in blog, Mental Health

Stress and Football

Stress in the world of football goes hand in hand. Let’s make no mistake. Last nights game got even the non-footie fans sitting on the edge of their seat; that included me.  A fantastic game, and England doing our country proud.  They reached the final and gave Italy a good run for their money!  However, I was reflecting on the stress and tension that would have been inevitable before, during and after such a big game.

I could feel their emotion – especially Rashford, Sancho and Saka shooting the penalties.  Seeing not just their dream of holding the Euro 2020 Cup but dashing the hopes of their team and fans.  For such young men, how would anyone feel in their ‘boots’ is a lot to deal with.  The stress encountered in the world of football is more than perhaps you might imagine.  The tension of yesterdays game and the swirl of emotions from the mental replay is inevitably going to go on will impact their physical, mental and emotional well-being over time.

Exacerbated by the thoughtless, heartless individuals posting abusive comments on social media will only add to their stress.

“Christian Eriksen TV Coverage sparks BBC apology after views left horrified” …. We explore the wider impact of televised trauma and the link between media coverage and PTSD.

After fifteen months of restrictions and a delayed start, thanks to COVID-19, the opening matches of the Euro 2020 tournament were hotly awaited by football fans the world over.

The stadiums may not have been full, but that didn’t stop armchairs and pub benches brimming over with people desperate to see a glimpse of normality. Many of these eager fans and supporters settled down to watch Denmark play Sweden on the second day of the tournament, exited and full of anticipation. However, the scenes that unfolded in the 43rd minute of the match at Copenhagen’s Parken Stadium will leave an impression many would sooner forget.

“Watching these events and feeling the anguish of those directly experiencing them may impact on our daily lives.” DR PAM RAMSDEN

Stress on the football field

Erikson collapses and leaves the crowd stunned and shocked

 Christian Eriksen, the Danish midfielder, dropped to the floor, leaving players from both sides in visible distress. Team-mates formed a shield, as it quickly became apparent Eriksen had a cardiac arrest. Fans were pictured around the stadium, stunned by the incident and visibly shaken – their distraught faces beamed around the world to spectators who sat in confusion, the joy of normality after a year plagued by death and sadness fast evaporating.

“Collective trauma refers to a traumatic event that is shared by a group of people. It may involve a small group, like a family, or it may involve an entire society.” VERY WELL MIND

 Although the risks of cardiac arrests to high performing athletes are known and reported, very few of the watching millions would have experienced viewing such a trauma first hand. However, thanks to live television and the subsequent coverage on social media, the exposure to someone else’s suffering was widely shared and will continue to be absorbed by many.

It is important that we openly acknowledge how the images made us feel, embrace and discuss them, and understand the traumatic images we all experienced together.

“Watching disturbing news footage on television may exacerbate post-traumatic stress and nightmares” NEW SCIENTIST.

While it has long been recognised that the effects of being exposed to someone else’s suffering are traumatic to front line workers, only recently are professionals beginning to understand how watching the tragedy unfold on television, and social media can impact viewers. In some cases, it can even be more psychologically damaging. Events such as 9/11, school shootings and riots can unfold to millions who may be distanced by miles, but not by the devastating impact that watching these events can have. Researchers have reported that by connecting with these violent events in an unintended way, some people will even experience PTSD symptoms.

“PTSD is a disorder diagnosed after one month of symptoms that can include severe depression, withdrawal, sadness and numbness as well as anxiety, panic, and the inability to focus.” ABC News

But how likely is PTSD to the wider audience? How close does someone have to be to the tragedy to be at risk? Some experts will say it is too early to understand the full extent of televised trauma. Still, the evidence is increasingly suggesting that even just hearing about a traumatic event can be damaging. Watching events unfold live on television and being subjected to repeated coverage will increase the chances of vicarious traumatisation, which in turn will increase the chances of anxiety, depression and chronic stress. If you already have PTSD, being subjected to images such as Eriksen’s collapse will increase symptoms, including flashbacks.

 “The Total Release Experience® is a natural method of releasing that energy from the mind and the body and eliminating the symptoms of PTSD and, in my experience, it is very effective…and…we didn’t invent it.. we observed it in other species who use it in the natural world as a way of preventing the development of their PTSD.” PROFESSOR GORDON TURNBULL, CONSULTANT PSYCHIATRIST – World-leading expert for PTSD

If you have experienced trauma from viewing recent or past televised events or been affected by trauma in the front line, or if you want to gain control over your PTSD and emotional pain, then the simple, practical and empowering 5 Step programme The Total Release Experience® can help you achieve just that. Perhaps you feel you will never recover from the trauma – releasing your body’s tension and anxiety can help you with that recovery whilst bringing a sense of hope. Learn to listen to internal cues to maintain feelings of comfort and control at all times. Help yourself to make healing changes. Learn something that your body knows but your mind has forgotten. There is hope!

When a professional player attended learned my programme, he shared that injury led to his retirement.  He said stress starts at the academy level when young boys leave home to pursue their dream in the football world.  Unable to cope with the pressure of being selected and performing, a lot of talent goes no further.   The Total Release Experience® guarantees that young talent can thrive when tension and stress are released.  Stress in the world of football needs to be addressed.  For players and viewers impacted by sporting events, it is easy to let go of the pent-up tension, for if not, more dreams will be shattered by the impact.

Alcohol and Mental Health

May 26, 2021 in blog, Mental Health

Alcohol  – Why is it a Choice Solution for Mental Health?

 Coping with stress and trauma is challenging at the best of times.  Indeed, it is a part of life. Unfortunately, many worldwide have had more than their fair share, of traumas.  They can go back to birth.  Children manage to suppress their feelings and emotions for years. But there comes a point start to notice physical, mental and emotional problems in their adult life.  Why is this?  Because for years, the tensions from those early years are trapped in the body.  When that child grows up and starts to feel the pressure of coping with something that isn’t really making sense, then seeking a solution to mask their feelings, alcohol is the first call for many.

Is it any wonder that during the lockdown, 1 in 3 adults alcohol consumption increased.

 Prince Harry “Heavy Drinking Masked Pain of Trauma”…The Coping Mechanism we should all Avoid

 It’s a well-known fact to most of us that drinking can mask a range of emotions – allowing us to forget the present in a cocktail induced, gin coloured haze of blissful ignorance or attempting to bury our past trauma under a pile of empty (or rather emptied) beer bottles. So perhaps the latest announcement from Prince Harry that heavy drinking masked the pain of grief from losing his mum should not come as a complete surprise. What is perhaps more compelling and indeed thought-provoking is his open acceptance and awareness of what has previously been considered one of our society’s taboos, grief.

Although seven out of ten British adults have suffered at least one bereavement in the last five years, the impact of death and trauma are still largely hidden. Grief manifests itself and pervades us at every secret opportunity – finding our weak spot and taking root of our emotional core. Grief takes no prisoners and plunges even the most emotionally balanced individuals into unchartered and unwelcome waters. We try, as human beings, to find a coping mechanism that will see us through the challenges of our daily life. All too often, alcohol presents itself as our knight in shining armour – dulling the pain, taking the edge, blurring the memories. It comes at a price – and alcohol happily sets a high stake.

In exchange for the fleeting moments of forgetfulness comes periods of shame, guilt and anxiety – with alcohol on hand to help forget those feelings of pain too. And so the cycle begins. For some, the realisation that alcohol is fast becoming the problem and the cure arrives too late. For others, like Prince Harry, the self-awareness and ability to seek help for hidden and buried traumas will be their saving.

 “I was willing to try and do the things that made me feel less like I was feeling” – Prince Harry, May 2021

Coping mechanisms can come in many guises, positive and negative, consciously and subconsciously working their way into your inner self, helping you deal with whatever life challenge you find tough. Alcohol finds its place, nestled in amongst the various pain-relieving, memory blocking, somewhat addictive solutions you could choose from. It builds the negativity without you even realising it – numbing your emotions and affecting your decision making. Somewhere amongst the choices, jostling for the front place, is the mechanism that will help you with real, rather than perceived, benefits.

In the case of Prince Harry, perhaps the very opportunity of being able to release his trauma by sharing has helped. In many other cases, it may not even take words to release the pain and help you move on with your life. For example, The Total Release Experience® releases the trauma energy trapped inside the body, helping you make healing changes and find freedom from physical, mental and emotional pain. Perhaps you feel you will never recover from the trauma – releasing your body’s tension and anxiety can help you with that recovery whilst bringing a sense of hope. It helps remove the temptation of the all too familiar, often reached for solution in a bottle – alcohol – whilst you discover that your body can heal itself with profound results.

“Just because you suffered doesn’t mean that your kids have to suffer, in fact, quite the opposite” Prince Harry, May 2021

Children and mental health

 Perhaps the most poignant part of Prince Harry’s latest omission is the impact that trapped trauma can have upon the next generation. Left untouched and undealt with, relying only upon a negative coping mechanism like alcohol, trauma will leave all those it touches with the same feelings of negativity and confusion. Taking a positive stance and making a change benefits not only you but your children or future children to come. Releasing the trauma and turning your life around in a professional, supported environment will benefit future generations.

 How The Total Release Experience® helps you remove the mask!

 If you find yourself relating to the Prince Harry statement and want to stop using alcohol as your coping mechanism, or if you want to gain control over your past stress or trauma and heal from anxiety, then the simple, practical and empowering 5 Step programme, The Total Release Experience® can help you achieve just that. When the cause is removed, the need for an addictive substance goes with it. Put more than just the empty bottles in the bin this weekend. Learn something that your body knows but your mind has forgotten.

Alarming Suicide Rate in Males in the UK: Statistics and Causes

October 19, 2020 in blog, Mental Health

To get straight to the point, suicide rates in males in the United Kingdom are alarming

Not just alarming but devastating. Suicide happens when a person is lost to oneself, whatever the reason that lies behind. Whether stress, overwhelm, or trauma from situations often beyond the individual’s control or other people, society, or close relations become the reason, and a person ends his/her life in the face of defeat. The suicide of someone can become a mirror for others to act accordingly. Like, what to say, do, act, think, and comprehend in front of any known or unknown person. Suicide is an act that occurs worldwide, wherever on any part of this planet, a person’s lost will might result in another lost life.

Like anywhere else, the UK also faces such alarming suicide rates, and males are almost twice as much as women.

       For the year 2020:

Office for National Statistics (ONS) reported that 6.9 per 100,000 suicide deaths (with confirmed 845 registered deaths by suicide) occurred in England between April and June this year, i.e., during the peak of the coronavirus pandemic (UK News, 2020).

Here a question arises that have suicide rates been affected by the pandemic?

Provisional data published by the ONS suggested there had been during the coronavirus pandemic’s peak between April and June 2020. The pandemic of 2020 took a huge toll on people’s well-being. The pandemic can impact mental health.  People with risk factors such as fear of unemployment, job loss, business failure or financial loss, inability to support family, fear of homelessness, or even fear of Covid; many are vulnerable to suicide. Unfortunately, it is not the current situation that causes feelings of no hope, and that suicide is the only way out. It is often the situation that is the tip of the iceberg.

Dr. Scowcroft says that it’s important to “ensure that in the coming months, support is prioritized for groups already at increased risk of suicide” (Wilson, 2020). People with mental health conditions of moderate-severe level, middle-aged men, and young people with self-harm cases are more likely to face severe challenges.

Another tragedy:

Young man with anxiety

Indeed, young males are the most vulnerable. Sadly another announcement of a young man just starting the next most important stage of his life as a student at University could not cope with lockdown anxiety and has taken his own life.  The impact on his fellow students, staff, and, more importantly, his family will be devastating. More people will feel worse, and the cycle of deepening anxiety leading to depression goes on.

In the year 2019:

Main Points regarding statistics of male suicide number and rate in 2019

  • In England and Wales, 5,691 suicides were registered.
  • Among men, 4,303 deaths, i.e., three-quarters deaths from suicide, were registered in 2019 (The Guardian, 2020).
  • In England, 4,017 deaths were reported among men.
  • Males continued to reported as three-quarters of suicide deaths registered in 2019
  • Suicide is the foremost cause of death for men under the age of 50.
  • Males with an age range of 45 to 49 years had the highest age-specific suicide rate (25.5 per 100,000 males)

Numbers of suicide in males by age group in the UK, 2016-2018

In the graph given below, SAMARITANS reported suicide statistics in males in years 2016, 2017,and 2018 i.e.4,508; 4, 382; and 4,903 respectively. The graph clearly represents the increased suicide rate in men in 2018 and, more importantly, in the age range of the 40s.

Note: x-axis: age group (years); y-axis: number of deaths. Source: Suicide Statistics report: Latest statistics for the UK and Ireland (2019) by SAMARITANS


The following table shows the average age range of men as victims of suicide in 2018:

Country Name The average age range of men
United Kingdom 45-49
England 45-49
Scotland 35-44
Wales 40-44
Ireland 55-64

More suicide is reported at a comparatively early age in Scotland, whereas in Ireland, suicide is alarming in the old age group.

A global overview of suicide rate in males:

Globally, the suicide rate for men is twice as high as for women. In many countries, this ratio is even higher (Ritchie, Roser & Ortiz-Ospina; Our world in data). Just as the world deals with the same pandemic – the world deals with the same problems – high suicide rates among men.

The table shows the suicide rate in men (per 100,000) in worldwide 2016-17 (Source: WHO)

Afghanistan 7.6
Argentina 15.1
Australia 19.5
Bangladesh 4.3
Belgium 27.8
Brazil 10.0
Canada 18.1
China 9.1
Denmark 16.8
Germany 19.7
India 17.8
Iraq 3.4
Iran 5
Ireland 18.5
Italy 12.1
Japan 26.0
New Zealand 17.9
Pakistan 2.8
Republic of Korea 45.1
Russian Federation 55.9
Sri Lanka 23.5
United States of America 22.8


Source: https://www.who.int/gho/publications/world_health_statistics/2019/EN_WHS_2019_Annex2.pdf?ua=1

Why is the suicide rate higher among men?

Dr. Liz Scowcroft, Head of Research & Evaluation at Samaritans, states that “there is no single reason that three-quarters of suicides are by men and middle-aged men have consistently had the highest suicide rates for decades.”

Several social, cultural, and economic factors affect suicide risk among men. The most apparent reason is that men find it difficult to open up about their concerns and problems. They are hard to talk about that. Deprivation is one of the major factors in male suicide. ‘Gold standard’ of masculinity puts pressure on men. Whispers like; “You are a failure, divorced, useless, unable to secure that job, house, car, woman, or children, etc.” (Sutherland, 2018). The outward expression of male distress causes significant problems for others (Source: https://www.mensmindsmatter.org/).

Etiological factors of suicide

In previous years in the UK, common suicide methods are reported as hanging, strangulation, and suffocation, i.e., 61.7% of all suicides among males (Office for National Statistics, 2020). The most common method is hanging, and the second most used method is poisoning.

Retrieved from https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/suicidesintheunitedkingdom/2019registrations

WHO categorize the etiological factors into the following groups:

Societal factors:

  • Difficulties in receiving or accessing care
  • Easy access to the means and methods of suicide (medications or weapons)
  • Inappropriate and incorrect media reporting
  • Poverty
  • Social isolation and lack of social support
  • Experiences of discrimination
  • Experiences of disaster, war, or conflict

Psychological factors:

  • Experiences of trauma or abuse (domestic, physical, or sexual)
  • Bereavement

Cultural factors:

  • Not having the same type of social network as most women.
  • Difficult to adjust to change in the environment like retirement
  • Stigma related to mental health

Individual factors:

  • Relationship breakdown
  • Unemployment
  • Past suicide attempt
  • Self-harm behaviors
  • Any mental illness or problems, i.e., depression, irritability, anger, or hostility (One adult in six has a common mental disorder).
  • Workplace and financial issues are more common for 20-24 year-olds
  • Any family history of suicide (Baffour, 2018)
  • Poor problem-solving and coping skills
  • Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
  • Physical illness or disability
  • Lack of sleep (87% of rough sleepers are men)
  • Housing problems include homelessness
  • Being in prison
  • Feelings as a failure or inadequate
  • Postpartum depression

Among young people

  • Academic pressure common among young people under 20s
  • Adverse childhood experiences
  • Exposure to bullying
  • Unhealthy school environments for children and young people

Among middle-aged men

  • Economic adversity
  • Alcoholism
  • Isolation
  • Less incline of seeking help
  • Drug poisoning/ drugs used in overdose
  • Excessive use of alcohol (Men are three times more likely than women to become alcohol dependent (8.7% of men; 3.3% of women – Health and Social Care Information Centre, 2017)
  • lower life satisfaction (Men report significantly lower life satisfaction than women (Reference: ONS))

Other methods of suicide:

  • Firearm and flames
  • Smoke
  • Self-poisoning
  • Gun control
  • Inhalation of domestic gas
  • Unspecified events

Suicide is like a virus, which unknowingly kills people. Three times as many British men are its victims than women. It can be reported that men between the age of 20 and 49 are more likely to die by suicide rather than cancer, road accidents or heart disease, etc. It is one of the biggest threats to humanity. Male suicide is referred to as a “silent epidemic.” High incidence and level of contribution to men’s mortality cannot improve the lack of public awareness.

At TRE UK®, we do not see it as silent – because the odds are stacking up, and we know how the story goes. 

Human beings ars stress buckets – and your Bucket, like everyone else, starts to fill from the day you were born.  Depends on the cards life dealt you, and what you are currently going through will be the measure of your physical, mental, and emotional well being.  If you are struggling to cope, your body is saying you need to release it.  But how do you do that?  Your options are limited and often expensive and ineffective in the long term.  From medication, which is a sticking plaster, it can often lead to addictions because of the dependency, self-medication, alcohol, drugs, smoking, or anything else again, causing further problems or other services through a therapist counselor or at rock bottom Samaritans.  In truth, the only one who can empty the Bucket is you.  Your body knows how too.

The Total Release Experience® is a totally unique self-help programme that will empower you to take back control of your well-being.  If you are a student in lock-down or are reading this and have a son struggling, make sure they are not going into a downward spiral.


ANNEX 2: Tables of health statistics by country, WHO region, and globally. Retrieved from https://www.who.int/gho/publications/world_health_statistics/2019/EN_WHS_2019_Annex2.pdf?ua=1

Baffour, D. F. (2018) Male Suicide: A Silent Epidemic. The British Psychological Society. Retrieved from https://www.bps.org.uk/blogs/dr-funke-baffour/male-suicide-silent-epidemic

ITV News (2020). ‘Worrying trend’ as data show male suicide rate highest in twenty years. Retrieved from https://www.itv.com/news/2020-09-01/male-suicide-rate-highest-in-twenty-years-new-data-shows

Latest statistics for the UK and Republic of Ireland (2019). Suicide Statistics report-SAMARITANS. Retrieved from https://media.samaritans.org/documents/SamaritansSuicideStatsReport_2019_Full_report.pdf

Manders, B., and Windsor-Shellard, B. (2020). Suicides in England and Wales: 2019 registrations. Office for National Statistics. Retrieved from https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/suicidesintheunitedkingdom/2019registrations

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MENTAL HEALTH, (2017). Statistics on mental health and men. Men’s Health Forum. Retrieved from https://www.menshealthforum.org.uk/key-data-mental-health

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Samaritans. (, 2019). Suicide facts and figures. Retrieved from https://www.samaritans.org/about-samaritans/research-policy/suicide-facts-and-figures/

Suicidal feelings. Retrieved from https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/suicidal-feelings/causes-of-suicidal-feelings/

Suicide. National Institute of Mental Health. Retrieved from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide.shtml

Sutherland, R. (2018). Tackling the root causes of suicide. Retrieved from https://www.england.nhs.uk/blog/tackling-the-root-causes-of-suicide/

The Guardian (2020). The male suicide rate hits two-decade high in England and Wales. Retrieved from https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/sep/01/male-suicide-rate-england-wales-covid-19

UK News (2020). Male suicide rate highest for two decades, new data shows. Express & Stars. Retrieved from https://www.expressandstar.com/news/uk-news/2020/09/01/male-suicide-rate-highest-for-two-decades-new-data-shows/

WHO. (, 2018). Suicide rate estimates, crude, 15-29, and 30-49 years estimates by country: Global Health Observatory data repository. Retrieved from https://apps.who.int/gho/data/node.main.MHSUICIDEAGEGROUPS15293049?lang=en

Wilson, S. (2020). Why do more men commit suicide than women? Latest ONS statistics show male suicide rate highest for 20 years. Yorkshire and the Humber saw the highest rate of death by suicide in 2019. Retrieved from https://www.yorkshirepost.co.uk/health/why-do-more-men-commit-suicide-women-latest-ons-statistics-show-male-suicide-rate-highest-20-years-2960748.

Stress, Anxiety and Teachers Health During Coronavirus:

May 18, 2020 in blog, Mental Health

Stress, Anxiety, and Teachers Health During Coronavirus :

Stress, anxiety and teachers

Stress and anxiety impacts teachers

Stress and anxiety have impacted teachers’ health and have been been a real cause of concern long before the Coronavirus and Lockdown.  The outbreak of COVID-19 has affected businesses and professions in almost all industries. Some of the first measures most countries have introduced were school closures and distance learning.

I think the worst thing about the coronavirus pandemic is uncertainty. But if you are a teacher, the uncertainty goes hand in hand with responsibility. You may not know what is expected from you over the lockdown period, how long the school closure will be for, or how to handle exams and grades. At the same time, you have to be supportive of your students, colleagues, and your own family.

A combination of uncertainty and responsibility can cause you to feel stressed and anxious or aggravate any mental health issues that you may already have to deal with. However, in situations of crisis like this one, it is natural to feel worried, stressed, and afraid.

When you feel vulnerable or threatened, your brain activates the flight or fight response to protect you against stress. So, I would say, being a little bit more concerned is useful because it keeps you alert and motivates you to do things to protect yourself and the loved ones.  Menopause when added to the mix can also exacerbate your situation and the amount you have to deal with.  Men are no exception to this either.  They too have to deal with menopause 

However excessive, worry, and fear can destabilise constructive responses to stress, damage your health, and impair the quality of life.

Here are some tips that are the easiest and most immediate things you can do the start the process of self-care.  As a teacher, you can apply during your time in isolation to help you cope with coronavirus challenges. Here is what they shared as their COVID-19 routine as a teacher.

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

Acknowledge when you feel anxious and be aware of your emotions. It is okay to feel sad, angry, scared at the loss of your normal life, work routine, and social interactions. Understanding that your feelings are normal when you are under stress will help you accept them.

  1. Set Your Own Boundaries

Designate different areas of your home as ‘work and/or study’ and ‘relax’ spaces. This will help ease stress and tension while working from home.

Creating time apart from other family members. This is an important part of self-care not just for your sanity but theirs as well.

Limit your daily exposure to COVID-19-related news to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Whilst we need to know the essentials which primarily is government advice and guidance. Don’t get caught up in everything else.

Allocate times of the day when your students can contact you. Then you won’t be overwhelmed by constant interruptions.

  1. Bring Calm to Your Mind and Body

Strategies such as mindfulness meditation, deep breathing, or yoga are effective in overcoming anxiety and stress in general. However, in times of increased uncertainty, you may find relaxation techniques particularly beneficial. Mindfulness helps to focus on the present, become aware of your negative feelings and thoughts, and then help you to overcome them.

  1. Create a Routine

Routine can be your anchor in times of increased stress and anxiety as you deal with the uncertainty. It will give you a sense of confidence and safety. Use your time management skills to ensure you aren’t working all the time. Set the priorities and add in breaks to your schedule. This should help you save time and increase productivity.

  1. Stay Connected to others

Although we are physically distancing, it is more important than ever that you stay connected. Use technology to reach out to your colleagues and people you trust and talk about your feelings. This will boost your mood and help you understand that you are all in this together.

  1. Seek Support

If you feel that your coping mechanisms are not strong enough to manage coronavirus anxiety on your own, reach out for help.

  1. Make Self-Care Your Priority

There is a lot of good advice being given out such as take time for regular exercise, relaxation, good sleep, and a healthy diet.  Indeed, it may be easy to acknowledge these should become your priority. Of course, great habits that can protect you against symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression during times of increased tension.  However, once your physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing starts to spiral down so too does the motivation to drive you forward. And instead, the frustrations and the stress just increase.  You don’t get to experience any of the benefits that can come from such disciplines such as feelings of calmness and wellbeing

The Best Kept Secret!

Did you know that there’s a key muscle in your body that is so deep you are not aware of it?  It is the Psoas muscle. The response of most people is that they have never heard of it let alone know where it is. It is your best-kept secret. It is your fight-flight centre and where you store your feelings and emotions.

Tension builds in the Psoas from the day you were born.  All the stress, overwhelm or trauma you have ever experienced in your life is stored in your body’s muscle memory, starting in the Psoas.  Anxiety is a symptom of tension overload.  The same as back, neck, and shoulder pain, mood swings, lack of sleep, IBS, lack of energy, concentration, or focus.  No amount of meditation or exercise is going to heal your body of those deeply held tensions.

The good news is that you can though.  Everyone has the ability to find physical, mental, and emotional freedom from any level of pain.  Nature gave us the amazing power which is within us to heal and build resilience.  We may have forgotten but your body hasn’t.  A simple, empowering powerful practice that can become your tool for life and life tool to become whole once more.

The Total Release Experience® gives you the best in education, support, and guidance as you start to take back responsibility for your own well-being. Self-care like you would never have imagined.  Imagine. ‘No talking’ no expensive therapy, no more self-medication whether that is alcohol, food, drugs, or any other habit that you may have adopted to help you get by.

Just a simple weekly practice that can transform your life as you would never have imagined.

The answer as always is one we have already!

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PTSD – Some Questions Answered

March 10, 2020 in blog, Mental Health

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is something many of us are aware of but can we say we know everything about PTSD?

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PTSD is a growing problem. Particularly for services sector personnel.

Here we answer some questions for you.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a complex psychiatric disorder with somatic, cognitive, affective and behavioural effects, secondary to psychological trauma. In other words, PTSD can elicit disturbing memories, flashbacks, sleep disturbances, hypervigilance, etc. in people who have undergone considerable psychological strain. PTSD is no different from anxiety, depression, and other psychiatric conditions; therefore, its treatment should be paid attention to, rather than believing that ‘time heals all wounds’

PTSD had many alternate names, including “shell shock” and “combat fatigue” during World War I and after World War II, respectively. Though it is more often seen in military personnel, veterans, firefighters, people in the service sector, or those with combat exposure. This does not mean however that PTSD is restricted to this group of people only. It can occur in civilians too, in fact, in anyone at all! [1]

How common a problem it is?

According to a national survey [2] conducted on the general population in the U.S., the prevalence of PTSD was found to be between 6.8 to 9.2%, more in women and older adults than men and younger individuals. People in the service sector have an even higher prevalence rate, relatively proportional to the severity of the injury; Those with combat-exposure but no injuries, have a prevalence rate of 8% whereas it is 33% prevalent in those with a combination of injuries. Moreover, 70% of such patients, had concurrent mental health problems such as depression. [2]

Here in the UK:

  • One in 13 children will be affected by the age of 18. 
  • One in five police officers has PTSD. In fact news headlines today – Kent Police have reached a five year high with currently 147 officers off with stress-related issues.  How many more will follow?
  • Given that traumatic exposure is common among firefighters, it is not surprising that high rates of PTSD have been found. Studies have found that anywhere between approximately 7 percent and 37 percent of firefighters meet the criteria for a current diagnosis of PTSD.
  • Among all emergency service workers, paramedics have the highest rate of PTSD, with an estimated prevalence of 14.6%. While all emergency service personnel face catastrophic and stressful eventsparamedics are exposed to these events on a daily basis.
  • Ex-serving military personnel deployed in a combat role were found to have higher rates of PTSD at 17.1%, compared with 5.7% of those who had been in a support role such as medical, logistics, signals and aircrew.

What psychological trauma can cause PTSD?

As the word, PTSD itself states ‘Post-traumatic’, so any event that is traumatic for the mind of a person can lead to PTSD. From interpersonal violence, organized violence or to life-threatening events.  Any event eliciting extreme fear can have a psychological impact. Some of the examples of such traumatic events and their contribution to the pool of PTSD are mentioned below: [3]

  • 33% due to Abusive sexual relationship- sexual child abuse, marital abuse, rape.
  • 30% due to interpersonal trauma- life-threatening health condition, unanticipated death of a loved one, etc.
  • 14% due to organized violence- war zone refugee or civilian, combat exposure, discovering dead bodies on crime or war zone, abduction, etc.
  • 12% due to physical violence- physical assault, childhood physical abuse, a threat to oneself
  • 12% due to life-threatening events- natural catastrophe, fatal road traffic accident, dangerous chemical exposure.

Clinical manifestations:

Symptoms can be summarised into four:

  • Reliving: Reliving includes flashbacks of the events, intrusive memories, recurrent distressing dreams, intense and vigilant reactions when exposed to anything that even remotely resembles the traumatic experience.
  • Avoidance: Efforts directed toward avoiding distressing thoughts. Absolute avoidance of the discussion of the trauma and of anything or anyone that can be a potent reminder of the event.
  • Mood and cognitive symptoms: Such symptoms include forgetting a critical aspect of the traumatic experience, persistent pessimism towards oneself: blaming oneself for the strain, marked disinterest in activities, disproportional anger, guilt, fear and horror
  • Reactive symptoms: Such as exaggerated startle response, hypervigilance, undue verbal or physical aggression, self-destructive behaviours, inability to concentrate and focus, sleep disturbances, etc.

Diagnostic criteria:

To differentiate PTSD from acute stress disorder, it is worthy of mentioning here that to diagnose PTSD the above symptoms should be present for at least one month. Table 1 Diagnostic criteria of PTSD according to DSM V Source: MDedge ©

Why some of the trauma victims have PTSD while others don’t?

There are several factors in a community that increases or decreases the probability of having PTSD after a traumatic experience. Not only that, but the physical condition, mental health, and other risk factors prior to the trauma also contribute massively towards PTSD. Age, gender, comorbid physical and psychological diseases, socioeconomic status, marital status, childhood history of abuse/adversities, family history, etc. all are contributing determinants of the outcome. The extent to which the traumatic event was unpredicted, unmanageable, irrepressible, and inevitable also acts as a protagonist.

Factors that help against the development of PTSD are called ‘Resilience factors’, which include


  • Friends and family support
  • Post-traumatic support group/counseling sessions
  • Positive coping approach
  • Sanity in the moment of fear enabling a person to react effectively

Impact of PTSD on general health: [5]

Several studies have been conducted to find a causative link between PTSD and other medical conditions. This is owing to the fact that PTSD patients are more likely to report certain diseases when compared with the unaffected general population. A link between inflammation and PTSD is being studied. PTSD is often found to be coexistent with chronic pain, cardiovascular, gastrointestinal, pulmonary, autoimmune, musculoskeletal disorders.

A study [5] conducted in New York City showed that four times increased probability of heart attack and emphysema, and twice the likelihood of having hypercholesterolemia, insulin resistance, and angina in the participants who had PTSD than those without PTSD. Besides these medical conditions, depression, drug, and substance abuse have been found to be highly associated with PTSD patients.

What are the management options?

PTSD is treated with an amalgam of psychological therapies and pharmacological. [6] Four weeks’ watchful waiting is recommended for those with milder symptoms with instructions of one month follow up.

  • Psychological therapies are directed towards modifying the emotional state of the victims, i.e. efforts to replace the sense of shame, guilt, and fear with optimistic sentiments. Such treatments include Trauma-focused cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), eye movement desensitization, exposure therapy and reprocessing and group therapy.
  • Pharmacological management: Antidepressants such as paroxetine, sertraline amitriptyline, mirtazapine, etc. should be given for at least 12 months if it is imparting beneficial effects, followed by a gradual decrease over a period of 4 weeks before discontinuing.

The cornerstone of the management of PTSD is to recognize and seek help to be able to break out from the cage within.

Before you give up!

As with all stress, overwhelm or trauma, what is not recognized fully is that the tension is drawn into the body and stored in the muscle memory.  The adrenalin and cortisol have no release and so more and more the symptoms worsen.  Tension is drawn deep – and in fact from the day we are born, into the Psoas Muscle.  Most are not aware of it and not surprising.  It sits deep in the back body.  Holds us together but most importantly our fight/flight center.  It is where we hold our fears and emotions and can impact breathing.  Animals release after a traumatic event by tremoring.  Then they can carry on with their day.  We as humans have suppressed that natural response to stress release.  Getting back in touch with what we are meant to do brings profound healing as the body has the ability to heal itself.

Get in touch to find out more about the Total Release Experience ® .  For if you think you have tried everything you haven’t and what do you have to lose!

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

Haruki Murakami


Ranna Parekh, M. M. (2017, January). PTSD- Posttraumatic stress disorder. Retrieved from American Psychiatric Association: https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/ptsd/what-is- ptsd

  • Committee on the Assessment of Ongoing Efforts in the Treatment of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder; Board on the Health of Select Populations; Institute of Medicine. Treatment for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder in Military and Veteran Populations: Final Assessment. Washington (D.C.): National Academies Press (U.S.); 2014 Jun 17. 2, Diagnosis, Course, and Prevalence of PTSD. Available from: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK224874/
  • Jitender Sareen, M. F. (2020, Jan 10). Posttraumatic stress disorder in adults. Retrieved from UpToDate:

https://www.uptodate.com/contents/posttraumatic-stress-disorder-in-adults-epidemiology- pathophysiology-clinical-manifestations-course-assessment-and diagnosis?search=ptsd&source=search_result&selectedTitle=2~150&usage_type=default&displ ay_rank=2#H1


Suicide – Time to Take Stock

January 25, 2020 in blog, Mental Health


Personally, I don’t like the word ‘Suicide’.  I looked up the meaning on Wikipedia. ‘Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one’s own death.’

In my view – nobody wants to die.  They are just at a point where they feel in so much pain, be that physical, mental or emotional and for them, there is no way forward.  No hope.

Suicide has a devastating effect – for those who die, survive attempts, and for family, friends, colleagues.

I am writing this now because January to March see suicide rates increase. 

In America alone, around forty-seven thousand individuals commit suicide per annum. Its equivalent to 4,7000 murders per year since killing oneself is also a murder. Suicide ranks at the 10th biggest cause of death in the United States.(1)

In 2018, there were 6,507 suicides registered in the UK, an age-standardised rate of 11.2 deaths per 100,000 population; the latest rate is significantly higher than that in 2017 and represents the first increase since 2013.(2)

The numbers and rates of suicide and undetermined deaths vary between age groups, with rates among males highest for those aged 45-49 years (except 90+ years) and among females, highest for those aged 50-54 years. More and more young people are taking their life, it is a tragedy of the worse kind.

What is going On?

It is that dreaded S word!  The one most choose to ignore or brush under the carpet until it is too late. Stress is a silent killer. 

Stress is mankind’s worst enemy. We see, read and hear regular news about how individuals who indulged in social crimes and for some cases took their own life.   When the story unfolds and often not until a court case, it would seem mental health was the cause. They were victims of stress. The tragedy is with loss of life is that it affects family, friends, work colleagues and society as a whole.  Although everyone faces the ups and downs of life, when someone is under continuous stress and anxiety, the body starts absorbing more and more stress that leads to physical, mental, and emotional problems that can include suicidal tendencies.

Fight or Flight?

 During an emergency situation, our body responds to stress by activation of the fight/flight response; adrenaline rushes, heart rate increases, the pupil dilates, respiration increases, and the body adapts itself for survival.  However, under chronic stress, this response gets continuously fired.  So, what happens is that slowly over time physical, mental and emotional deterioration starts to show. Initially classic symptoms of stress include mood swings, headache, IBS, back pain, anxiety and depression.  As the holding of tension gets worse chronic pain, fibromyalgia, various illnesses or disease show up suddenly without any obvious cause.  Mental health issues become overriding. At worse, stroke, heart attack cancer and regrettably when hitting rock bottom, the only way out is suicide. 

What is Chronic Stress?

It refers to the small doses of stressful events or memories that one faces over a period of time. This stress is more dangerous than acute stress that is the defensive mechanism of the body against emergency situations aka fight or flight responses.

Chronic Stress Must Not Be Ignored

If you look at yourself or the people around you, one thing you can bet is almost common for us all is the experience of stress. The fast-paced life, social, financial, marital and other pressures are collectively manipulating the mind to remain under constant stress and tension. Depression, anxiety, psychiatric and mental disorders have become an epidemic. The worst outcome is taking one’s life. But why? Because people find it an easy escape from all their worries. Scientists have confirmed that chronic stress gets stored in the form of a memory that constantly engages the fight or flight system that is present in the abdominal region.

The Psoas muscle is the main reserve for all the stress that body absorbs since this muscle is actively involved in all stressful conditions.

Most people I ask do not even know where their Psoas muscle is. That included medical practitioners!  Why would they? It is hidden in the back of the body.  Under the diaphragm, behind all your organs and into the top of the legs.  Apart from holding your upper body to your lower body, what is key is that it is your fight/flight center. It is where you hold your fears and emotions and because it is attached to the diaphragm it impacts breathing.

It’s important to know that we may not realize that we are constantly taking in small doses of stress each day whether from aspects of financial, personal or social life. But if we ignore what is going on by the time, we realize the impact it is having on our physical, mental or emotional wellbeing, it becomes too late and we find ourselves at the edge – wanting to end it all. Once life is ended it can never be undone however, the causes that lead to such mental distress that suicide seems to be the only answer can be undone if treated earlier.

Stress Can Lead To Suicide?

Stress is the most common cause of suicide – that act of someone taking their own life. The build-up of not coping can come from workplace stress, study, exam pressure, job dissatisfaction, relationships, losing a loved one.  Young and old alike are vulnerable.  Witnessing or coping with physical, mental or emotional abuse which can stem from early years builds up in the body, again in the Psoas muscle. 

Terminal illness such as cancer or HIV can be enough to drive one to the edge. Social isolation, bullying or harassment, loss of a loved one, joblessness are all factors that impact the quality of life and the stress leads to mental health problems.


Treatment is limited and most often not effective.  Self-medication such as drinking, drugs or eating the wrong foods only add to the growing psychological problem that just continues to get worse. Self-medication leads to addiction, so health deteriorates further. Certainly, whether drugs or alcohol become a get by strategy there is no rational thinking when feeling so low.

People Who are at High Risk of Suicide

According to a survey, the highest suicidal rates belong to India, America, Alaska and some parts of Africa.

While most of the Suicide attempts are men and women age 45 and above, in the recent past, there is an alarming increase in the number of suicides committed by youngsters as well. The suicide rate is higher among young men compared to young women. Especially, University students are found more trapped under stress. Performance and exam pressure, dealing with finances and student loans, concomitant work and study stress, being bullied, ragged and other sorts of stressors like drugs can chronically induce the venom of stress in young minds leading them to commit or attempt suicide.

One in five college students have experienced suicidal thoughts due to stress at some point in their lives.” (2)(3)

Academic stress and suicidal ideation among university students are rapidly increasing.

“Recently, at Bristol University, a student named Natasha committed suicide due to the stress of being unable to speak in front of people. Her body was found dead the day before she was going to give a verbal presentation in front of staff and students. She tried to seek help from the staff previously, but she wasn’t helped the way such cases should be handled.” (4)

Suicides in the Service Sector

Heroes that save the lives; police officers, firefighters, prison officers, nurses, and soldiers are more prone to commit suicide due to their stressful and violent work scenarios. Stress causes slow but constant psychiatric damage leading to mental health problems and suicidal thoughts among service sector employees. Police officers have to face the extraordinary stress of shootings, encounters, robberies and certain emergencies that an ordinary person cannot withstand. If not treated effectively, chronic stress forces them to end their lives.

Medical field professionals like surgeons have to perform critical operations that can be a life or death situation for the patient. Subconsciously, chronic stress due to stressful OT environment leads them to substance use and even suicidal thoughts. Likewise, nurses interact more closely with the patient and its attendants. In case of a serious illness or death of a patient, nurses and doctors become equally involved in grief (stress) like the attendants. Ironically, medical staff have to face these situations on a daily basis.

Life Trauma

We have no control over the situation’s life throws at us all.  Many children and adults get caught up in traumatic experiences that can scar them for life.  From footballers to celebrities, we are all human and if unlucky enough to become a victim of atrocities imposed from others at whatever stage in life the trauma gets trapped in the body.  If we keep holding on it will impact physical, mental and emotional health. 


Suicide is not an Option It’s necessary to destress the mind and body in order to keep the balance. Stress is temporary if well treated but once a person commits suicide, it’s permanent. That’s why removing chronic stress is the key for the prevention of suicides. Being a student, worker, medical staff, firefighter or police officer, one should be more inclined towards effective stress management that will not only help to prevent suicide but will also pave the way to smoothly work and grow in their respective careers.

What is currently on offer:

Option 1 – Talking – be that to a friend, family member or professional.

Whilst it helps to talk, it does not get it out of the body.  Often talking just feels like churning the same story over and over.  It can often make one feel worse. One cannot talk about childhood experiences that have for many years been blocked and not remembered.

There are not enough professional counselors of therapist to go round and often the cost is prohibitive if having to self-refer.

Option 2 – Medication

Conventional stress medications come with a bunch of harmful side effects and their results are temporary.

It is all sticky plaster and does not address the root cause. Temporary respite but harmful in the long term.

Option 3 – Self Medication

Attempting to block the feelings and emotions that bring the physical mental and emotional pain by resorting to drugs, alcohol, gambling, eating, excessive exercise or other OCD behaviors. 

Whilst they bring temporary relief, the need to keep doing or taking leads to addictions.  So no, not a helpful solution all.

Option 4 – Heal Yourself and Build Resilience

Get to the root cause of what is blocked in your body.  Release from the Psoas muscle.  The Total Release Experience® is simple to learn, empowering 5 Step programme that becomes a tool for life and a life tool.  It is a lifesaver.  We have worked with those on the brink, who attempted, but fortunately failed to take their own life at a time when they felt so low.  By allowing their body to release the tension they healed themselves and got back to a normal happy state to live life to the full once more.

With NHS in meltdown struggling to cope with the growing problems of mental health, addictions and obesity it is time to look to what the body can do and take back control of your own well-being.  With Drs, Therapists, Fire & Rescue, Police and Inmates connecting and healing and recommending, there has been no simpler cost-effective way to live a healthier happier life. 

If you think you have tried everything – then there is one thing left!

The Total Release Experience® is a cost-effective yet practical programme that empowers all who learn. Destress now by releasing from the Psoas and bringing balance back to your physical, mental and emotional well-being.  Don’t wait until it is too late.  Read the stories of those who took back control for themselves.

Don’t’ leave it too late – after all, what’s to lose!


  1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_in_the_United_States
  2. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5781286/
  3. https://www.webmd.com/depression/news/20180910/1-in-5-college-students-stressed-consider-suicide#2
  4. https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-bristol-48254007

The Effect of Stress and Anxiety on Mental, Physical and Emotional Health

December 31, 2019 in Let the Energy Flow, Mental Health

It should come as no surprise that one of the most talked-about topics of this last decade has been and continues to be the effect of stress and anxiety on our well-being.

Stress is a part of life and we can’t completely avoid the effects as we face stress and anxiety in our lives. The way, stress affects our mental, physical and emotional health is directly linked to our ability to manage our energy flow. It’s true that each cell of our body responds to stress and anxiety or trauma. Certainly, stress affects all the organ systems of our body sooner or later.

We often link our problems, daily fatigue, anger, irritability, migraine, headaches, sleeplessness, and restlessness to underlying conditions or illnesses. Unfortunately chronic stress and anxiety become the culprit behind our ill mental, physical and emotional health.

“According to the American Institute of Stress, the effects of chronic stress cost US companies over 300 billion dollars per annum.”

It does not matter how compliant people are with their physician’s advice and guidance on stress management. Regardless of this fact, many eventually develop diabetes, hypertension, obesity, and myocardial infarction as a result. Why? We can ignore the signs, and this is often the case. It is unfortunate, that we fail to understand is that since birth our bodies have been storing the tension.

What is Stress Memory?

The ‘Psoas’ muscle is in the lower lumbar part of the body. Basically the Psoas muscle is basically responsible for holding our upper body to our lower body and moving our legs towards the abdomen of the body similar to walking gestures. The Psoas also stores stress memory because this muscle is also involved majorly in a “fight or flight” response. If the chronically stored stress during a “fight or flight response” or an emergency situation is not released, various health issues may arise particularly IBS, gastric ulcers, mood changes, suicidal thoughts, social isolation and much more. Masking the stress using pain killers, muscle relaxants, opioids, tranquilizers will not treat the real problem.  

Most of the people, as they feel the effect of stress and anxiety taking hold, and find a shortcut way using alcohol and drugs. The constant use of drugs or alcohol provides an instant but short-lived alleviation. After some time period, they become tolerant of previous doses as it all becomes ineffective. The problem is then exacerbated as it becomes on of addiction. This not only urges them to consume more drugs but also puts financial strain

Helping yourself tro let go of the effect of stress and anxiety.
A way to help the effects of stress and anxiety

The best way is to release the stress and let the body relax and get back to normal energies. We do not realise too just how much we constantly take in small doses of stress each day whether in the form of financial, personal or social life. This problem even becomes worse for people performing stressful jobs involving dealing with the trauma of other people like fire firefighters, security personnel, paramedics, surgeons, physicians, animal rescuers, and welfare volunteers, etc. Furthermore, problems can also arise regarding career and health because work pressure puts continuous emotional and physical stress on them,

Stress and Anxiety affect Emotional Behaviour

Stress is a worldwide epidemic affecting millions of lives globally. Depression, anxiety, psychiatric and mental disorders are becoming more and more common. Chronic stress affects behavioral and emotional health symptoms include irritability, hostility, frustration, anger, aggressive feelings, and behavior. Stress can also be the cause of decreased interest in appearance, punctuality, or obsessive behavior (engaging in compulsive behavior rituals such as counting, checking, washing, etc.). Likewise in the workplace the impact might be reduced work efficiency or productivity, lying or making excuses to cover up poor work. Furthermore, excessive defensiveness or suspiciousness, problems in communication, social withdrawal and isolation, impulsivity (expressed as impulse buying, gambling, rape, etc) can occur.

The Impact on Our Young Generation

We daily get news of murders, robbery, chaos, violence, and suicides. Unfortunately, our young generation is also falling into the cracks as pressure grows on them from stress, anxiety.

In a recent event in Manchester, a boy was stabbed with multiple wounds is admitted to the hospital.  The UK has seen far too many of these incidents occurring. The impact on families and communities is devastating. 

It is similar to the shootings that have been going on in Florida, continue to cause grief and misery among the victim’s families and communities. There is countless news coming each day about crimes, social violence, anger, and aggressive behaviors. This is all related to chronic stress at some point. The hate experienced by others, we also store in our body, until such times we notice and perhaps too late, that our body pays the price. That’s why addressing stress, anxiety and tension is necessary for harmonizing emotional behaviors for the promotion of a healthy society.

Small Things Cause Anxiety and Stress

The effect of stress and anxiety can come from bad feelings, bullying, financial stress, joblessness, death of a loved one, breakups, poor self-image, childhood abuse, divorces, accidents, mental or physical trauma, violent personal or job situations and being broke may not seem detrimental to health. Certainly by the very nature of our constitution, in the UK, we would rather hold on to our feelings than admit there was something not right. The classic response to anyone who cares to ask us ‘How are you?’ we say – I’m OK’ no matter what we feel inside, we block or ignore. The long term consequences are that stress can, does and will negatively impact our health.

Stress – Fight or Flight?

Stress causing agent is called stressor. This stressor stimulates the hypothalamus present in the central nervous system of the brain. Hypothalamus in response to a stressor stimulates adrenal glands to release “cortisol” and “adrenaline” causing stress. This fight or flight response affects the body by increased pulse, rapid heart rate, dry mouth, decreased digestion, diarrhea, panic, decreased growth processes, dysfunctioning reproductive system, decreased immune functions, rapid breathing rate, and increased blood flow to the limbs preparing the body for a survival mode. This fight or flight system is beneficial under short term stress. (1)

If the body is under the continuous effect of a stressor then symptoms can become a chronic or long term problem adversely affecting the body’s normal functions.

Stress and Diabetes

Stress can be a major contributing factor in not only aggravating blood glucose levels but also in causing type-2 diabetes. Stress is a potential contributor to chronic hyperglycemia in diabetes. Stress has long been shown to have major effects on metabolic activity. Energy mobilization is a primary result of the fight or flight response. Stress stimulates the release of various hormones, which can result in elevated blood glucose levels. (2) Chronic stress in diabetes can alter the efficacy of insulin or diabetes medications in effective control of blood sugar.

Continous stressor stimulates CNS and results in high levels of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline which alter the glucose metabolism. Eventually, blood glucose levels become out of control even with the use of medications.

Overeating can also be compelled by stress. Therefore consuming more sugars just increases blood glucose even further. Since diabetes is a manageable disease, releasing stress is the most likely effective key.

Stress can affect the Digestive System

According to research, chronic stress can upset the normal digestive system. Stress-induced heartburn, gastric acid reflux, and impaired gastric secretions contribute to worsening digestive problems like constipation, diarrhea, Inflammatory bowel disease (IBS) and even ulcers. (3)

“Chronic occupational stress in employees with stressful jobs, the combination of personality patterns (anxiety/depression), stress and negative emotions contribute to gastrointestinal tract (GIT) alterations. In particular, jobs that produce privation, fatigue, chronic mental anxiety and a long past history of tension, frustration, resentment, psychological disturbance or emotional conflict have been shown to produce gastric ulcers. Irritable bowel syndrome and functional dyspepsia also have significant co-morbidity with mood alterations.” (4)

Gastric ulcers caused by H. pylori bacteria become worse under chronic stress. In the worst conditions, prolonged ulceration can result in gastric bleeding and hemorrhage. That’s why releasing stress becomes even more vital in digestive problems.

Stress may Increase Injuries

Stress can also alter the food movements through the gastrointestinal tract causing diarrhea or constipation, nausea, vomiting, or stomach pain.

Chronic stress can increase the tension in muscles and prolonged stress on muscles under chronic stress lead to the inability of muscles to relax back. In this case, chronic muscle pain, especially shoulder muscle pain becomes a problem. You get more tired and fatigued following daily exercises or work routines. Stress can even cause spinal pain, headaches, and stiffness of muscles. People then mask the pain using traditional pain killers but the cause is still present, which is stress. In the case of diabetes, neuropathic pain becomes even worse under stress.

Chances of chronic muscle injury and bone injury are high if a person is under constant stress leading to arthritis, osteoporosis, uric acid retention in joints, shoulder joint. Releasing stress using anti-depressants and tranquilizers may not be a real deal because of their harmful side effects and inability to treat the cause of the stress.

“According to research, Stress-related psychiatric disorders, including depression and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), are highly prevalent disabling illnesses with limited treatment options and poorly understood pathophysiology. Chronic pain is a widespread pathology afflicting 20%–30% of adults.” (5)

Regardless of the availability of a range of treatment options, chronic pain continues to seriously affect the quality of life for patients. Almost half of the pain suffering individuals do not achieve adequate pain management.
The effect of stress and anxiety have a devastating impact on physical health

Stress Decreases Immunity

Although acute stress is beneficial in the stimulation of the immune system and prevention of common cold, flu, and infections. However, chronic stress results in constant engagement of the immune system there is the chronic release of WBC’s, interleukins and immunoglobulins. Over time, the immune system weakens rendering the body unable to fight even common infections.

Stress and Children

Chronic stress increases recovery time after any illness or injury because the body’s natural healing process becomes altered under stress.

In children, particularly childhood abuse, strict parenting, boarding school, lack of communication or any negative memory may lead to ELS or early life stress in children leading to various physical health problems like cardiac diseases, respiratory diseases, and mental disorders at a young age. (6)

Moreover, chronic stress in any form like the pressure of getting grades, social life, house issues, poverty, strict parenting, abusive behavior, bullying and other sorts of negative vibes encourage the child to adapt escape from daily life routine. This results in a child to become aggressive, abusive, misbehaving and rebellious.

The effect of stress and anxiety on health on children according to research, continuous tension and mental anxiety also results in poor physical and mental growth in children. Consequently, the child’s academic performance also declines hence rendering more pressure on them. In some cases, suicidal thoughts also find their way in young minds finding an escape. The medical treatment does not qualify for rationale treatment of stress in children because their side effects can be dangerous and root cause will still be there.

Releasing stress via specialized treatment procedure plays a vital role in balancing the body’s natural energies. But for many children depending on their experiences, Freeze is the natural response, They block the experience in order to survive.  The consequences of which manifest much later in life.

Respiratory and Heart Problems

Under chronic stress, lungs are constantly hyperactive in order to meet the oxygen needs of each and every cell of the body-facing stress. This leads to chronic damage to tiny alveolar tubes carrying fresh oxygen to the blood. In this case, the risk of developing COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) becomes high. It silently leads to shortness of breath, emphysema, and bronchitis causing inflammation of bronchi. Chronic damage to the lungs is often irreversible. Things become horrible for an asthma patient under chronic stress because stress induces the release of “pro-inflammatory” substances that aggravate the symptoms of asthma and in worst conditions, complete breathlessness can lead to blackouts, damage to brain and heart muscles as well.

Moreover, chronic stress can mimic hypertension because of constant involvement of fight or flight response causes constriction or narrowing of blood vessels in order to maintain the blood flow to muscles. If stress is not managed, it can result in increased chances of heart attacks, strokes, and hemorrhage. People with a history of cardiac problems are more obligatory to release chronic stress.

Mental Disorders and Stress

Everyone faces stress and depression in his or her life. But under some circumstances, this stress can be deleterious to mental health.

PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder is the state of mind after an acutely stressful event that affects the “amygdala’ and “hippocampus” in the brain. In this condition, the person feels fear, anxiety, flashbacks of the same event, nightmares, suicidal thoughts, and insomnia. Although PTSD is caused by acute stress, chronic stress increases the risk of developing the disease.

Alzheimer’s disease involves the devastating loss of cognitive and motor function which is stressful in itself but can also disrupt neural circuits that mediate stress responses. Disrupting these circuits produces aberrant emotional and aggressive behavior that causes long-term care to be especially difficult. In addition, added stress drives the progression of the disease and can exacerbate symptoms. (8)

Sexual Problems from Chronic Stress

Stress is the biggest enemy of sexual life among both males and females. Chronic stress is directly linked with low libido and testosterone levels, fear of performance, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation in men.

There is an inverse relationship between anxiety and sexual functionality. Females can also face less than normal sexual desire, vaginal dryness and itching, lack of orgasm and in some cases, chronic pain during intercourse. (9) (10)

These sexual problems are linked to chronic stress and may cause further stress and anxiety leading to poor relationships and mental breakdowns.

What’s The Solution?

No one knows where their life journey is going to take them. Many people live a relatively stress-free life, but no one escapes completely.  That is why there are so many options to manage the stress symptoms that one might be advised to take on.  Stress and the health issues that many do not realise have come from holding stress in the body has been a topic of much discussion for years.

Despite the choices we make the more stress and trauma experienced it is fair to say that no one can get it out of the body.  But each and every one of us has the power to do that ourselves. 

Our Body has The Answer!

In all the years I have been working with clients impacted by their The effect of stress and anxiety from trauma, the problems in society continue to get worse.  The increased use of social media has contributed to that one.  Despite all the offerings and alternatives that have become available from meditation to massage, from walking to talking nothing is changing.  Some treatments and therapies come for free but many more can cost a lot of money.  The cost can be prohibitive.  It always sticks in my mind that 6 women I worked with had spent between them £170k on trying to heal.  They sat before me with a pleading of hope.

In all the years I have been working with clients impacted by their The effect of stress and anxiety from trauma, the problems in society continue to get worse.  The increased use of social media has contributed to that one.  Despite all the offerings and alternatives that have become available from meditation to massage, from walking to talking nothing is changing.  Some treatments and therapies come for free but many more can cost a lot of money.  The cost can be prohibitive.  It always sticks in my mind that 6 women I worked with had spent between them £170k on trying to heal.  They sat before me with a pleading of hope.

All Comes back to The Psoas!

It all comes back to the Psoas, the fight-flight muscle deep in our body.  The one that holds our fears and emotions.  Attached to our Diaphragm so therefore impacts breathing as the body gets tighter from holding on.

When we learn to reconnect with what nature gave us all to survive – just like animals, then the problems gradually disappear and physical, mental and emotional health restored as our body recalibrates, like a reset button has been switched on.

I have spent 8 years solely working on evolving a practice Trauma Prevention Exercise I learned in South Africa that triggers the Psoas to release.  My discoveries came and continue to come from working in the long term following and supporting individuals who have suffered years with CPTSD and the effect of stress and anxiety that has dominated their life. I have witnessed profound healing where nothing else has come close.

At TRE UK® we deliver the Total Release Experience® an empowering 5 Step programme that becomes a life tool and a tool for life. Supported by professionals – see what they have to say!

We offer hope where there has been none. Overcome the skeptics and seen lives transform.  Not because we have the magic but share with everyone we work with – that they do.

We All Have A Choice

Healing doesn’t happen by itself and when life pulls us down, we have two choices – go with it and get sucked under or make that decision to change and take back control of our own well-being.  Saying no to drugs and medications, addictive behavior, and wasting time and opportunity.  A totally natural response to healing just like animals can be transformational.

Let Wellbeing be your 2020 Choice

In 2020 we want to give as many as possible that choose wellness over illness the opportunity to learn something about your own body that we may have forgotten but your body hasn’t.  We have Workshops coming up from January to March, you will have a great experience as you gain knowledge and insight just like others

Start the new decade by making 2020 your year. Don’t let the effect of stress and anxiety be all you have to deal with. Start with taking control of your own wellbeing.  Heal from the Past and Build Resilience. 

Map showing where you can learn  to heal from the effect of stress and anxiety in the TRE UK Workshops from Jan-March
Discover a TRE UK Workshop near You.

We support you all the way, for we know that so much suffering though it may be part of life’s journey, we certainly do not have to carry around the negativity that comes from it.


  1. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2474765/
  2. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/1425110
  3. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4202343/
  4. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3829457/
  5. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5546756/
  6. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4074672/
  7. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3050094/
  8. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5991350/
  9. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4115031/
  10. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5958528/