Healing from Trauma in the Fire Service

October 30, 2019 in blog

Listening to today’s news on the release of the Grenfell Tower Fire Report, my heart again goes out to those brave servicemen and women who undoubtedly are still battling with the trauma of the unforgettable tragic events on 14th June 2017.  The work for all personnel in the fire and rescue service impacts their wellbeing.  They have the most stressful job in civilian society.  Those involved in Grenfell Fire and Rescue from the switchboard operators to those on the front line have and will continue to feel the trauma.  

They will hold tension in their body.  The tension is all stored in the body’s muscle memory, in particular, the psoas muscle.  Most people have no idea where the Psoas is.  The psoas is our fight/flight centre and the place where we hold emotions.  If the body holds all the tension from life it eventually leads to debilitating symptoms, physically, mentally and emotionally.  What else is there then aside of counselling or talk therapy?   How do we find real healing?  Prescription drugs of course but there are far too many deaths by drugs.  They only mask the problems anyway, especially when they are for anxiety and depression. Self-medication is no answer either.

As Professor Gordon Turnbull, a highly esteemed Consultant Psychologist said to me when we first connected. ‘We now know we have to get it out of the body as talking just doesn’t do it’.  We have discussed many a time the impact of holding stress in the body.

Men and women embarking on their career in Fire & Rescue Service undoubtedly feel excited and tough.  One Fireman shared with me ‘I was 23 when I joined up at the time. I felt invincible as you do, being a young man. Life and my career ticked by having good and bad incidents but never really noticing any mental challenges.’

When I asked when that all changed he said ‘My life seemed to be going great and then 16 years ago – crash, never saw anything coming. What would be the highlight of your career pulling someone alive from a burning building, actually left me broken due to the conditions we endured.  It took me 6 hours to get home such was my shame that I could not cope.’ He had counselling provided by the Fire Service at the time but said he felt worse as it never had answers.ire and rescue Serviceire

It was not until earlier this year that a series of events left him in a bad way he shared with me what he felt.   ‘immense anger, breaking down in tears for what would be a simplest of issues, thinking of suicide. Yes, I would say at rock bottom. At that crossroads live or end it.’ Like so many other stories we have heard from servicemen and women.

He was at this low point in his life. A friend who had been in a bad way suggested he attended a Total Release Experience® Workshop. After that day he later shared. ‘Walking from the workshop it was like walking from a dark room to brilliant light. The difference from the start to finish of the day. The subsequent days could take things in again. I could start to understand documents again. I just felt if this is life, I want some of this. You never notice the small changes and I hadn’t realised the world I had ended in.’

As part of a wellbeing committee and a wellbeing champion, someone who is listed to help support or just listen to others if they need that friendly ear. The Total Release Experience® should be taught to all staff and new recruits. It’s a life tool that would save a lot of people like myself. Enduring a career of mental injuries that never manifested till it’s too late.’

We are passionate about sharing the education of teaching how it is indeed possible to recover from the brink.  The memories never fade. But one can talk without holding on to the feelings and the emotions. Holding on just keep compacting in the body if not released. A simple, yet empowering practice, especially for the service sector. They all need something that they can use to heal from the past and build resilience. Life can be bright and beautiful once more.  Thank you to all those heroes in our country.  They sign up to save our lives but should not be left fighting for theirs.

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An Interview with Dr Graham GP

February 11, 2019 in blog

An Interview with Dr Graham GP

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Dr Graham GP

Dr Graham is someone very special who really puts patients first. Her dedication to keep exploring new ways of healing that in particular would benefit children for their future well being  shares in this interview her thought having discovered the Total Release Experience® – a unique no talking – 5 Step programme to Heal yourself and Build resilience.

Dr  Graham, how long have you been a GP?

I am a GP of 25 years’ experience.

 Is there a particular focus Dr Graham, in health that interests you in particular?

Throughout my whole career I have had an interest in how the brain and body influence each other in both sickness and health.  I am Chair and trustee for a Charity called YPCS (Young People’s Counselling Service) whose patrons are the well known actors Warwick and Annabelle Davis.  One of our ambitions is to teach young people early to manage their own mental health so they don’t end up requiring our services for counselling.

Dr Graham,  How did you connect with TRE UK® ?

 A chance suggestion via a colleague led me to the TRE UK® website.  I was impressed by its stories of success but as a clinician I have to be more analytical than that and so enrolled with a psychotherapist friend for  one of their workshops.  After all I thought if Professor Gordon Turnbull is enthusiastic about it, then it is certainly worth learning more.

So how did you find it?

 The results were unexpected and to be honest, I am not interested if we cannot fully explain the. Caroline and her team have created a very professional, well organised training and support programme that shows her education background and I was pleased to see that there is good governance in place.

 What else did you learn from the experience that day?

  I often tell patients that I don’t know how my phone works but yet we accept that unconditionally and use it none the less. There seems to be no serious adverse effects from the Total Release Experience®, though some of the ‘detoxing’ can be unexpected and briefly unsettling.  This is why good training is essential.  This is not a technique to ‘have a go at on your own’ just because you read an interesting newspaper article.  It is simple but powerful.  

So what has it done for you Dr Graham?

 The relaxation it brings is immediate after a ‘practice’ as we call each session. So much so that I slept for 2 hours afterwards on a couple of occasions! I think it has helped me to stay calm when facing the usual stresses of work and family life with 3 teenagers.  Slowly however other changes became apparent-I started that diet I had been avoiding for 3 years and have lost 11 lb. I am much more energised, focused and creative than I have been for years which is really great.

 Anything else Dr Graham?

 I was so impressed that I organised a workshop for patients (and some relatives of mine) and have started a clinical trial with the hope that this will provide enough data to get funding for a more scientifically robust study.  With my charity hat on we are exploring how we can teach the Total Release Experience® in our in local schools to empower kids to manage their own health and therein lies another research opportunity.  

Dr Graham, it sounds like you have really connected with this?

 It is rare in medicine to come across something that is potentially so cost effective, that is safe and that teaches the patient to be self-reliant.  It was also refreshing to see a local Pain Consultant recommending it as it ‘ fits very well with our bio-psycho-social model of pain management’.  If it shows in trials what Caroline has seen many times over in her clients who have fibromyalgia, PTSD, anxiety for example, then I hope this will convince others to offer this as part of their treatment package.   As doctors we desperately need something other than medication they may not need or counselling that is more expensive.  The future looks very exciting!

Dr Graham, thank you for your time.

How to Release Daily Pent-Up Anxiety and Stress

January 23, 2019 in blog, Let the Energy Flow

How to Release Anxiety and Stress

Stress is something that you cannot be completely free from. The secret to not letting the daily stress and anxiety get to you is to take measures to release it before it accumulates and becomes too much for you to handle. There are various steps you can take to let the stress out and relax completely without having to worry all the time.

Here are some fail-safe ways for you to try in order to successfully diminish the stress and anxiety in your life:

Exercise

Those who tell you to make exercising a permanent part of your daily schedule are far from wrong. Doing any kind of exercise everyday helps release the frustration and negativity that accumulates with time. Letting your body experience physical stress is a sure way of releasing your mental stress. Start exercising daily and feel the tension and anxiety slip off, leaving you feeling stress-free and at ease.

Use Essential Oils

Essential oils are known to have healing powers as they help you escape the anxiety and stress you are feeling. Buy scented candles and light them in your home after a hectic day to feel more in control. Some of the most soothing scents include lavender, rose and vetiver.

Write Everything Down

Writing things down is one way of relieving anxiety and feeling better about your life. Write down everything that is troubling you, even if it is as minute as a bad haircut and then jot down possible solutions that you have in mind. Seeing things in writing helps you think better and clears your mind of irrational fears and tension.

Spend Time with Your Loved Ones

Instead of giving in to the urge of staying alone and out of touch from everyone, make efforts to spend extra time with your family and friends. Being with your closest network of people will give you a sense of belonging and will help diminish the anxiety and tension that is a part of your life.

Following these simplistic measures will help you give more meaning to your life and will ensure that you lead a mentally healthier and tension free life.

Look After Yourself

Anxiety is a big problem for many, and when anxious thinking about all the things you could be doing bring challenge.  Why not take a different look at well being?  How does and ‘no talking’ self help practice sound?  Something that is profound, powerful and immediately transforms lives it the Total Release Experience®.  A simple yet powerful practice that can release from the most debilitating symptoms of stress, anxiety, tension and trauma.  TRE UK® deliver the best service, knowledge and support that you would find anywhere.  Because we know how important it is to understand the power of the body that can heal itself.  If you never get to understand it – you never know release.  Look after yourself.

Avoiding Stress and Anxiety at Christmas

December 18, 2018 in blog

Stress Builds

Stress and anxiety implodes at this time of the year – no matter what budgets and controls we have in place, the pressure to give to children and loved ones because of expectations causes the headache not on Christmas day but in the weeks after when the realisation of the overspend hits hard.  Not just the bank account.  It hits the body hard.  That is just one thing that builds stress.  Then there is the pressure of working and trying to fit everything else in that has to be done if we want to give the best Christmas to our loved ones.  It all kind of snowballs and the pressures then just build.

Christmas is stressful and the problems build here are the main causes of stress at this festive time.

Stress and Health

Stress can manifest in many ways, the knot in the stomach, IBS, tension in the body, mind fog, back and neck pain.  The list goes on.  Before long anxiety builds and anxiety leads to depression.  The pressures build and they symptoms get worse as we cannot fully function physically, mentally or emotionally.  More stress, more anxiety and heightened emotions.  This can lead to arguments and relationship issues worsen.  Then maybe on to separation.  The spiral down has well and truly got underway and may result in homelessness and possibly at worst suicide.  There are so many unnecessary suicides in the UK Samaritans share statistics

 

It’s incredibly stressful when you realise you have to make major changes in life. For many people, financial concerns are a constant source of anxiety and tension which is quite common in today’s economy and especially at Christmas.  Worrying about your problems won’t help you solve them, but there are other ways you can deal with the financial stress successfully. When you are stressed out, there are other aspects of your life that get affected as well. You will have a hard time concentrating or focusing on important tasks because you are too busy worrying about your financial stress. By worrying less and planning more, you can handle the situation much better.

 

Here are a few simple tips to relieve your financial stress:

Make a Budget

Making a budget will help you get control over your finances and help you decide where and when you are going to spend your money.  By making a spending and savings plan you can save yourself from going into debt. It may seem like a daunting process in the beginning, but with the passage of time you will get the hang of it and increase your savings. Begin by the first month’s expenses and cut in different areas and spend wisely until you find the perfect balance.

Make an Emergency Fund

An emergency fund is a money you set aside for financial emergencies. It is easier to use the money according to your budget if you know you have money set aside for the unexpected expenses that may arise.  It seems overwhelming at first to build an emergency fund, especially if you are struggling to make ends meet. You can even sell some objects in order to build up cash quickly.

Automate Your Payments

Payments such as phone, electricity and gas bills are recurring and take time to manually deal with. By automating these payments via an auto debit service, you can save the stress and time of dealing with them. You can also save yourself from the extra charges that occur due to late payment.

Using these simple strategies, you can stay one step ahead and plan your finances wisely.   However, this time of the year no matter what budgets and controls we have in place, the pressure to give to children and loved ones because of expectations causes the headache not on Christmas day but in the weeks after when the realisation of the overspend hits hard.  Not just the bank account.  It hits the body hard.

Heal Yourself and Build Resilience

Now this is something we can all do.  No Talking, a simple to learn yet powerful practice that enables anyone under pressure to open the release valve and let go of what the body holds.  When we let go of the physical, mental and emotional tensions we start to feel lighter, brighter, more focussed, energised, happier and more at peace.  We build resilience so that that when faced with pressures we can deal with the toughest situations in a calm ad composed manner.  The TRE is the best step forward in self-help and self-care.  Heal quickly with guidance and support which is necessary when learning the practice.  You will find out more about the inspirational TRE UK® Workshops around the country.  How to learn via Skype.  No one is isolated. Budgeting and planning finances at such stressful times of the year become a key focus when the mind is clear, the senses are sharp and the pressure is no longer felt in the body.  Read the many stories and sharing from Workshop experiences with TRE UK®.

Have yourself a very Happy Christmas.  Let love and kindness be your gifts if money is tight.  Be innovative and creative to avoid damage limitation of spiralling stress levels.  Then look to learn something in the new year that special gift of a Total Release Experience®

Erase the Symptoms of Anxiety, Trauma, Stress and PTSD

November 12, 2018 in blog

Recognising the effect of Anxiety, Trauma, Stress and PTSD

Mental health is so much more important than some of us believe it to be. Any kind of mental issue is dangerous and can lead to serious repercussions.  Such issues may seriously impact the rest of one’s life.   At worst as a result of mental imbalance the feelings are so strong one can end up taking their own life.    For those left behind their mental torture then starts.  Not knowing how low that someone felt be that a loved one or friend and not noticing the signs of their growing anxiety and depression.

Only yesterday I was talking to some young people I taught in a school some years ago.  I was shocked to hear that a former pupil took her own life.  The sadness of the friends was evident.  The disbelief that despite the camaraderie that goes on long after leaving school, no one realised how bad things were.  The stressor here it would seem was social media.

Mental disabilities like stress, anxiety, tension, trauma and PTSD are all significantly prevalent in every age group.  Whether a  ten year old child or an adult who just crossed seventy.  The impact of social media and the use of technology can affect anyone of any age.  Whether they are being bullied, harassed, stalked, propositioned, or provoked in any way it does not take long for a happy go lucky person to start spiralling down.

While some can deal with such problems successfully with time, others find it much more difficult.  They can without support end up feeling suffocated and even suicidal.  Therefore, knowing about how to remove such negativity from your life becomes even more essential.

How can you help yourself or others?

Here are a few tried and tested ways that will help you successfully ward off the adverse impact of anxiety, tension, PTSD, and trauma.:

  • Accept that you have a problem and that getting professional help is the right thing to do.  It is not something which you do not have to be ashamed of.
  • Realize that removing anxiety, tension and PTSD does not have an immediate solution and that your mental healing will take some time.
  • Take your loved ones into confidence. Hiding what you are going through will do you more harm than good. Explaining the symptoms will help them understand your situation better and make the support process relatively easy.
  • Plan out a proper sleeping and diet schedule. Eating healthy and exercising regularly will help you interact with the world and keep you from becoming isolated – something that is harmful for someone in a bad state of mind.
  • Get professional assistance. Going for therapy is  a helpful step you can take to erase the symptoms of mental issues like tension, anxiety, PTSD and trauma. A therapist will be able to guide you better without being judgemental and will be your rational voice through hard times.

Don’t ignore what is going on.

Mental health imbalances need to be taken care of immediately. Instead of slacking letting issues like PTSD, anxiety, tension and trauma get the better of you.  Try to meet the problems head on and you will find it easier to deal with them.

There are of course many barriers for young people when coping with the overwhelm of anxiety.   This may include their discomfort of talking to adults or others about their thoughts or feelings.  It depends on the problem they may feel ashamed or guilty.   They may be desperate to speak to someone, but the professional support is not available.  They may not want to go on medication.

So, what is left?  Self-medication by turning to maybe drugs or alcohol or just continue to spiral down to such a low ebb life seems it is not worth living.  Those feelings and emotions build and build as the mind and body are connected.  When we are in a dark place the emotions take over, the mind chatter doesn’t stop, and it is a merry go round as the mid is stimulating and impacting the physical body.  Tension build and it goes deep, deep into the psoas.  The more tension we build the more our body starts to malfunction.  Our systems are impacted, we find ourselves low in energy and not able to fully function in our daily lives.  One thing leads to another.  We end up relying on health-care.

From health-care to self-care!

How about self-care?  There is a simple yet powerfully effective way to ease your physical, mental and emotional pain.  The Total Release Experience® (TRE), gets you back in touch with nature’s gift to us all as you soon discover how to heal yourself and build resilience.  For in this crazy, busy world if we do not look after yourself who is going to?  A technique that is accessible by young and old alike. 

This technique becomes a life tool and a tool for life as we find balance again physically, mentally and emotionally living life to the full.  Workshops, Skype or private sessions there is always a way to access our expert tuition.  We give the relevant resources and the ongoing support as required to ensure you find confidence and feel competent as you take back control of your well-being.  Don’t let you or your loved ones sink so low it seems there is no way out – trust now that there is.

Turning life around.

August 29, 2018 in blog

A solution for the well being of mental health of Young People

Does it happen for you?

Do you ever turn the radio on and there is something you tune into that seems to be so well timed that it makes your ears prick up?  Or open the page of a paper or magazine and you find yourself reading something that is just what you need to read?  I do.  It seems to be happening more and more.  It is all about timing.

Today driving home from teaching I was listening to Jeremy Vine on Radio 2.  The subject was focussed on 14 year old girls and the growing number who self-harm.  One fifth of them in fact, frightening numbers.  I listened to the discussions, comments and conclusions from parents, counsellors and young people themselves.  Couple this with a host of other problems around the wellbeing (or not) of young people.  Issues such as anxiety, depression, and eating disorders, even sadly suicide.  In Kent alone, there are 14,000 young people that suffer depression and anxiety.

What are the causes?

Nothing surprised me around discussion on self-harm.  Something has inevitably created pressure for the young person -boys and girls.  Although stats highlight there are more girls than boys that self-harm.  Bullying, sexuality issues, abuse, exam pressure, divorced parents and of course the modern danger of social media are just some of the key problems young people may have to deal with.

Who else is affected?

Not just the young themselves, but their families, siblings and friends even teachers.  Parents especially get worried sick as no parent wants their child to suffer.  So, their health and wellbeing start to be compromised too.  It all has a knock-on effect.  The ultimate cost becomes greater as physical mental and emotional wellbeing spirals downwards to different levels for all who seek to support their suffering loved ones.  What is worrying is that with the problems now where does that leave these young people who suffer as they move into their adult life?

How the body deals with the problems.

Imagine your body as a bucket.  All the life pressures, traumas and stressful situations that occur, simply fill your bucket.  The overload causes the problems, such as headaches, IBS, nervousness, lack of sleep, depression, anxiety, mood swings, anger and so on.  Young people in Offenders institutions have their buckets filled at an early age.

Solutions?

We hear a lot about the problems – but clearly there are no lasting solutions.   Not many for sure.  Because if there were we would not have the endemic issues we have around the entire country.  Would we?

The chemicals from fight and flight create blocked energy in the body.  The bucket gets full so how do you empty it?  You can’t so you develop strategies that can.

Current Strategies for mental well being?

MIND do a wonderful job – but two things, talking does not get it out of the body.  In many cases it helps, but my experience of working with young people – even adults, not all open up to the idea of talking.  They do not find it easy to open up.  Counsellors are also in short supply that is why parents are constantly on the phone to CAHMs desperate to find a solution to help their child.  But the wait list is determined again by resources in short supply.

There is always medication of course.  Another problem occurs when young people get put on to anti-depressants at an early age.  Sticking plaster – not getting to the root of the problem.

There is always self-medication – smoking, drinking, technology, eating (or not), violent behaviour, self-harming so on and so forth.  Anything to mask the problem and bring about distraction or moments of feeling good.

Before we know it addictions are creating another problem.

You can empty your bucket!

Yes indeed.  Might come as a surprise but we are all wired up to release the deep held tensions that are causing all the problems.  Children and young people heal very quickly too!

How come millions don’t know about this?  Because although this is something innate in every human being it has become suppressed in us all.  We are animals – and just like animals we have a survival technique that is simple and effective.  Those youngsters who have discovered it get just as blown away by the simplicity and yet powerful outcomes as adults do.

At TRE UK® we teach a simple 5 Step programme that puts people in touch with what nature gave them.  A self-help, no talking physical practice that once learned becomes a life tool and a tool for life. Cost effective indeed.

We have worked with individuals, families and groups, in school and privately.  Parents who have learned, are inspired to share with their young children, it becomes a real leadership tool.  Everyone benefits by getting their body, mind and life back into balance.   Healing from the past and building resilience for the future.

What do young people have to say?

Before doing the TRE, I found that a lot of things got to me. Exams, work, and all manner of stressful situations would have me freaking out and having panic attacks which would often stop me sleeping, which would in turn make matters worse. I’d tried a lot of different ways of trying to control it but couldn’t.

I heard about the TRE from a concerned family member and at first, I was a little unsure and a little sceptical. But I had nothing to lose and went ahead with my first session. I had positive results from week one.

I feel totally different and I’m a lot better than I used to be with stress, anxiety and general negativity. I haven’t freaked out about anything in ages and it’s the best feeling in the world to be able to just get on with my life and not have to deal with all the things I’ve suffered with for a long, long time – especially with my GCSEs rapidly approaching and having to make choices about sixth form.’  Matthew

 ‘As a 17 year old student, stress of work and study would often get the best of me and I would suffer from insomnia. I started TRE not really knowing what it was, but decided that I had nothing to lose by trying it out as nothing else was working for me. I was very pleasantly surprised to notice drastic changes in my sleeping pattern shorty after beginning the sessions. I was able to sleep much more, therefore making me less tired during the day and so making me feel more energised overall.

I was better able to cope with my workload and exam pressures. I know that some people may be sceptical or may not want to try something they don’t know, especially at my age, however I would highly recommend TRE because the results could truly improve your daily life as they did mine’.

Paula

 ‘For the first time I had the confidence to stay out with friends on a sleep over.  But more than that I have come out.  I feel really happy for the first time in a long time’ Cassie 15 years old.

 Comments from young people following Workshops.

‘It was pretty weird. I entered a state of calmness and almost fell asleep but was at peace with myself. Then almost felt emotional as past events and the build up from that became clear. It was a relief to let them go.’

‘I feel as if a large amount of weight has been lifted at first I was a bit scared. However, I have found it an enjoyable experience.’

‘It was different but a good different. I felt tremors in place that I didn’t realise that were there. I felt fresh when I did it and new. I also felt like I was the only one in the room and I found my own place. I felt emotional but good because it was saying be confident and go out there and be you.’

‘This experience has given me a key to start something new in my life. After building up an emotional wall I have finally found something that will help me knock it down. The hardest problem I face is feeling empty or disconnected to myself and this has helped me to release my pains.’

‘After today’s session, I feel much stronger mentally and emotionally. It’s something new I’ve never done before and I don’t regret this new experience.’

‘I found this experience unreal, you can’t really explain the experience of TRE and its effect on you until you do it yourself.’

‘It was a totally new experience. Nothing like I expected it to be. Its helped me a lot and I can see it continuously helping me more in the future.’

‘After today’s experience, I felt like a massive weight had lifted off my shoulders.’

‘It was strange, but In feel like what I’ve learned feel today will help me now and in the future.’

What next?

Well we all have to open our eyes and look to self-care when there is no health care.  At TRE UK® we offer different options to support families, schools and Universities.  We can turn our downward spiral around and change – but of course we have to be open and willing to do something for ourselves.  To open our eyes to something that can change your lives like it has for many others.  What’s to lose?  For what’s the alternative – I think you may have worked it out already!

Symptoms of a Traumatized and Stressed Individual

June 9, 2018 in blog, Mental Health

Anxiety and Tension lead to problems

Do you recognize the signs of high levels of stress, anxiety, and tension in people who are a part of your life?  With the world becoming a hectic place to reside in with each passing day, it is becoming more and more important to notice the mental health of those around you.  Being able to recognize when a person you care about is suffering internally,  can make all the difference in the world for that individual.

Here are symptoms you will observe in a person who is stressed or traumatized, They maybe silently screaming for help:

Emotional Signs

Emotional indicators of stressed individuals include a feeling of being overwhelmed too often and feeling like things are spiraling out of control. People who are stressed will be moody, frustrated and have difficulty in feeling relaxed. They will tend to avoid the company of people and prefer staying alone.

Physical Indicators

People suffering from a lot of anxiety, stress, tension and trauma will feel like they are low on energy and will experience frequent headaches. They will have trouble sleeping and body aches and a rapid heartbeat will become a normal occurrence in their lives. Stressed and traumatized individuals will be nervous around you and will be prone to shaking and swearing excessively.

Mental Signs

People with a great deal of tension and stress in their lives will have reduced concentration levels and diminished perception. Their judgment will be poor and they will be indecisive in most areas of their life. Individuals suffering from anxiety due to a hectic life will lack in motivation and will display low levels of creativity.

Any amalgamation of these three indicators should notify the presence of anxiety and tension in an individual. Other signs include an increased use of caffeine-containing products, drugs, and alcohol. Keeping people you care about safe from drowning in their troubles by recognizing the issue through these symptoms will make it easier for them to power through the difficult time successfully.

All this tension and anxiety resides in the body and figs the mind.  When it spirals out of control, there is another on the list awaiting support for their mental health.  Current solutions – talking or medication.  No wait before you give up there is something else.  You can take control and heal yourself.  The body remembers and so the body must release.   The Total Release Experience® teaches you how to heal yourself and start to get your life back on track.

Importance of Children’s Mental Health

May 3, 2018 in blog

Importance of Children’s Menat Health

Good mental health is essential for a healthy and robust lifestyle. Whether a child of ten years of age or an adult who just reached fifty years of age.  Consequently, issues like continuous anxiety and tension can have a significantly drastic effect that lasts a lifetime.  A lot of importance should be given to the mental health of children,   The type of childhood they have will impact their entire life and the way their personalities and characters are shaped.

The following features are the two of the most important basis of the good mental health of children and have a great impact on their life as they grow up:

Unconditional Love from Family Members

One thing that should be at the basis of every family life is unconditional love. Especially relevant is to give support, security, and acceptance.   Just some of the things that a child needs as he/she is growing up. The absence of any one feature can cause havoc in both the present and future life of a child, and open them up to bouts of anxiety and tension. Because everyone makes mistakes and they should be accepted and dealt with properly without going overboard.

A Safe and Sheltered Environment

Children are more prone to becoming frightened of something that exists around them or something that is in their minds. The first step to take is to find out exactly what they are scared of and is giving them anxiety.  After finding out attempt to remove the fear.  Childhood fears stay with individuals as they grow up and becomes a permanent part of their life.  Such fears can haunt them for years if they are not handled at the right time. Adults sometimes do not understand the fear or its origin. Dealing with it is the main action to pursue instead of marking their fears as trivial and waving them off.

Getting rid of any aspect of a child’s life that may affect them and mark them for life is an adults responsibility.  It should not be hedged on at any cost.  Even something that seems minute can have an immense impact on a child and mar their innocence and cause their mental health to weaken forever.

Children and the Total Release Experience® (the TRE)

There are limited resources and options for children if they suffer anxiety.  Talking being the main one.  For some talking is not an option for the many children, unfortunately, have endured a history of stressful to traumatic situations often at the hands of the ones supposed to love them.  Freeze is their defense mechanism.  We work with many adults who suffer because of the trauma is held in their body from an early age.  The TRE for children is such a simple yet powerful practice.  Learning the TRE  enhances their chance of letting go of their anxieties and build resilience for their future.  Then they can have the hopeful future they deserve.

How to Cope With Grief and Painful Emotions with the TRE

March 21, 2018 in blog

Grief is intense sorrow caused by the loss of someone close to your heart.  In grief, a person feels a variety of emotions such as loneliness, sadness, distress, and heartache.  There are numerous reasons of experiencing grief such as the death of a loved one, end of a relationship, loss of a job or suffering from a chronic illness or any other tension.

Everyone has a different way of grieving, but if you seek support and take care of yourself you can heal.  Dealing with grief is a challenging task, but it is possible and necessary.  The pain disrupts your physical health and makes it difficult for you to sleep, think and eat. All these reactions are normal while you are grieving, but there are numerous ways to cope with the loss and come to terms with it and move on and live a normal life.

How to Deal with Overcoming Grief

Even though facing a loss is an inevitable part of life, there are numerous things you can do to pick up the pieces and move on with life.  Some of the steps include:

  1. Recognise your pain
  2. Understand that your grieving process will not be similar to anyone else’s
  3. Seek help from people who care about you and share your feelings with them
  4. Take care of your physical health to support your emotional health
  5. Understand the difference between depression, anxiety, and grief

The Stages of Grief

  1. Denial

This is where you are in denial about what is happening with you

  1. Anger

In this stage, you feel angry about why you are facing the situation and find people you can blame for it

  1. Bargaining

In this stage, you try to make deals with God or yourself to do anything in return for taking the pain away from you

  1. Depression

You begin to feel too emotionally drained to do anything

  1. Acceptance

This is the final stage where you come face to face with the reality and are at peace with what happened and finally move on

When in grief you may want to withdraw from everyone and retreat in your shell, but having the support of people is vital for the healing process. You can also find comfort by being around others who are suffering the same or around those who genuinely care about you.  Whatever the case may be you should not isolate yourself.  For the most part, talking is the main option.  Now there is another way.

With the Total Release Experience®  (the TRE) there is another way to learn to heal and very quickly. Those we have worked with although they felt they had dealt with their grief it soon became evident to them in their practice that the body was still holding the pattern.  They have very quickly and without the need to talk, released their long-held symptoms and have been able to move on free of anxiety, insomnia, and depression enjoying the memories of their loved ones but feeling ready to move on.

Relationship between Adverse Childhood Experiences and Adult Well-Being

February 16, 2018 in blog
Relationship between Adverse Childhood Experiences and Adult Well-Being

Adverse Childhood Experiences are those traumatic events that lead to negative and long-lasting effects on the health and well-being of an individual. They can be anything ranging from sexual abuse, losing a close loved one due to a traumatic incident to the divorce of your parents. Such experiences not only increase the odds of struggle but have an adverse effect on the health and behaviour of individuals when they grow up.

There are many short and long-term impacts of cumulative childhood trauma with most commonly reported cases relating to substance abuse and household physical abuse. According to studies, some adults have experienced at least one instance of household dysfunction or childhood abuse before the age of 18.

You can not underestimate the importance of a child’s relationship with the caregiver. It’s through these relationships that children learn to trust one another, interact with one another and regulate their emotions. When these relationships become unstable, it gives them the feeling that they cannot rely on anyone else for help. They start to see the world through a different lens and have a more pessimistic approach towards the things in life as they believe nothing good ever lasts.

Most of the abused or neglected children have trouble building strong healthy relationships with others. They are more vulnerable to stress and may react inappropriately or violently to normal situations. Children who have a history of complex trauma may also face issues with their romantic relationships, authority figures, and friends.

Childhood experiences greatly affect who we become as adults and if not dealt with carefully in the beginning, can lead to serious mental health issues.

There is a strong relationship between adult well-being and childhood trauma. In such cases, mental health strategies should be incorporated to prevent the impacts at the early stages of life such as counseling.

Much of our work is supporting adults wanting to heal from the scars of childhood trauma.  The body has a wonderful way of letting go of the past with the most natural healing practice of the Total Release Experience®  No talking, or interventions and so easy to learn with our support.  A one day Workshop and you can live a different life –with hope.  See what others have said