We’re all chatting in the living room amused by the antics of my adorable curly haired one year old grandson. Suddenly it all happened so quickly, he turned, missed his footing and fell, catching his eye on furniture.
Within seconds, with blood pouring from the wound, his Mum screamed, his Dad came running through and in blind panic they set off to hospital. Of course lots of toddlers fall and start to collect their little scars. But the scars go deeper and not just for the victim. Every time we encounter distressing situations – and nothing worse than seeing your child hurt – we contract inside our body. The scars of the event are not just on the outside, we start to build our holding pattern of all things that overwhelm us throughout our life. I saw the hurt on the parents’ faces, I could feel their anxiety.
It made me think if all those events in my life as my children were growing. Their falls their scrapes, their moments of upset when things did not go as planned, their broken toys, bones, friendships, romances, the loss of their beloved grandparents and others, their moves from home and so the list goes on. Practicing TRE has released many of these ‘vicarious traumas’ from my body. I can talk about them now without having to revisit the anxieties and feel those tears well up as they used to.
The more I release the more it makes me think about what others are holding from a lifetime of buried, overwhelming events. As I watch two young parents who have just moved country to be back in the UK to feel safe as their child grows up – and that has not been without its dramas – I am glad to be sharing TRE to ensure they learn to release as they go.
It has made me think what a wonderful organism the human body is and how once learnt we really do have the power to heal ourselves – we just have to want to.