TRE for Relationship Stress
For an endless list of reasons relationships can and do go wrong. They may end in argument, fights and in many cases severe abuse and cruelty.
Perhaps you have found yourself in this situation or one that is similar. Although you may be all too familiar with the emotional impact of your circumstances, you may not realise that there has also been a real physical reaction that may prevent you from moving forward. As your body goes into defence mode to protect you, symptoms of stress, tension and anxiety start to build. Before you know it, you are feeling both mentally drained and physically unwell.
Learning the technique of TRE (Total Release Experience) you learn to release the unpleasant symptoms of stress, tension and anxiety without the need to talk or rely on medication. As a result, sleep improves, concentration and hence clarity of thinking is better and one feels more confident and hopeful of recovering from past experiences. This can help to either rebuild a broken relationship or be able to detach from it and move forward to live a more balanced life.
‘I have been through divorce after 45 years of marriage to an abusive and controlling husband. Approaching my 70th birthday I have been suffering from sleepless nights for 7 years and repeated bouts of depression, unexplained stiffness in joints and headaches.
At first I did not really know what I was letting myself in for. I embarked on a series of six sessions of TRE not knowing what to expect.
After session one I was more relaxed and sleeping better. By session six I had started to feel my mood had improved. Although my body had felt achy and in some pain, Christmas was approaching and I was coping better than I had done in years. I was feeling more motivated for life and less self-indulgent with lots more energy. I continue to do TRE 2-3 times a week.’
Greatful Client – Kent
‘Caroline had mentioned TRE to me on a few occasions and I was intrigued. I have tried numerous therapies in the past, both verbal and physical, so am always keen to learn more about such things. Everyone has their troubles along life’s path – big and small – but learning to deal with them and manage the emotions that come with them is usually the key to happiness. I had had a traumatic few years with having to manage a very stressful job, a relationship breakdown and a young child. I also suffered regularly with lower backache and permanent tiredness in the past, so I was willing to try anything that might make a difference. My partner had also been suffering with panic attacks, so I thought it would be a good thing to do together and support each other through the experience.
Having signed us both up for TRE, I began to wonder if I was doing the right thing – the thought of bringing out old and painful memories was not something that I relished! However, I set my fears aside and tried to approach it with an open mind. The first session was the most bizarre as I had not really known what to expect, but by the end of the second session, I had learnt not to expect anything – no two sessions were ever the same. Sometimes I had mild tremors, sometimes frantic ones – sometimes these were accompanied by memories or images of the past, other times nothing… I occasionally felt sad, sometimes I felt happy, but after each session I felt different.
Initially, I had quite severe mood swings (which thankfully my partner was also experiencing!). It was quite unsettling to burst into tears at home for no apparent reason, but that was part of the deal that Caroline had warned us about. I also found that I was sleeping more deeply and, for the first few weeks, I had the most vivid dreams. These were usually quite calming, happy dreams, but I also had scary and upsetting dreams which unsettled me… I even had a dream about doing TRE! However, all of the dreams made me realise that some of the memories that I had been suppressing were being processed in a way that talking therapies had never done. Since doing TRE, I have experienced less lower back pain and I have found myself better able to cope with difficult and stressful situations. I am managing my work better and am finally getting a good balance between work and home.
Caroline is a careful and supportive instructor who made the whole class feel at ease – I am not sure I would have felt comfortable practising TRE with anyone that I didn’t trust, but Caroline’s honest and encouraging approach made the experience very enjoyable. I have been recommending TRE to lots of my friends and those that have tried (or are trying) it have already agreed that the benefits are well worth it, so put any preconceptions aside and give TRE a go… there is nothing to lose and so much to gain!’
NP – Kent